about adapting to frugal lifestyle after an incomebreakdown 🫠

my adhd is giving me a hard time not spending for any impulsive ideas but I am left with only round about a quarter of my former income and I can’t adapt well. I had enough before and since half a year I don’t, but my brain wants to spent money like before.

we don’t eat expensive, but we snack expensive. i usually don’t buy a lot of clothes but I lost a lot of weight and most doesn’t fit anymore (and I’m going to look for a new job soon, so I need at least one proper outfit).

we got a cat and a dog, which had super heavy health scares last year. so I pay for the insurances instead of waiting for the worst. the dog is allergic af and I have to buy expensive special food. i am a single parent and have to take care of the teenagers needs as well.

I’m going to sell my car soon, because I just have to to get by. social aid doesn’t pay anything at this point because I was couple of bucks over the limit so far. But they don’t consider the high debt I got. So I’m actually pretty concerned right now. i used to be poor before, so I kinda know I will get over this episode, but it terrifies me at this point.

long story short: i need a network of no-buy-buddies that helps keep me from spending too much. anyone out there?

  • oceanAEnglish
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    15 hours ago

    I think somehow from high school into college I began to save more than I spent. From college into grad school now I saved a ton and am more comfortable for it. I also grew up with some poor periods and a very bad example and a very good example in my life of how to handle money. With a child now it’s very hard but we are trying to adopt. We are frugal but hard to stay even!

    I totally get what you mean. Thanks for sharing! Just today I was going through Walmart thinking of all the things I needed but I stayed focused ;)