My ex would always yell at me for pointless stuff and make me cry in front of his friends. They didn’t even like him, they just tolerated him.
My sister’s friend would blame my sister for stupid things and try to say it’s my sister’s fault, not hers. She would yell at her too and try to pass it off as a joke.
(We are very much healing now 🫂 Not perfect, but healing)
Maybe around college I realized my younger sibling wasn’t just mean in middle school but continued to today. From college to now I slowly have come to peace with I just don’t like them. They’re mean, easy to explode, and self centered. All family can be mean or sassy but I can make up with the rest. Never them, and always completely unreasonable.
Most recent massive blow out is when I got mad at them for putting their stupid little dog right in my very young child’s face. They then exploded that I’m using my child to hurt them… huh? As they go off I’m physically shaking but just laughing in their face. Protecting my child is hurting them, lol.