Let me start. I previously resided in a north eastern US state, I had a good job, a good partner, a nice place to live. I thought I’d made it.
I started having medical problems, discovered I carry certain genes and such. Was having trouble getting them diagnosed, but such is life.
Then my good partner left me, I lost my job of a year and a half, and I thought a fresh start near family would be good. I decided to move cross country. Which I regret, I want to leave but now I don’t have the resources so here I am.
I just can’t seem to get a job, I’ve applied at over 2000 jobs in the last 6 months. My previous job was managing the entire technology infrastructure for an IT company. The one before that was the IT Manager for a small company. I have the experience, but I can’t get a job.
Last night I swerved to avoid deer in the road, got stuck in the mud and had to get towed out. I’m flat broke, I can’t get a job, I have nothing. I lost everything. And I don’t see myself ever recovering it. I have the experience and skill to do at least mid and some high level IT work.
I desperately want a remote job because my car is not reliable, my partner got the good car sadly. I’ve certainly made mistakes, I’ve certainly failed. But I don’t think I deserve this much pain and suffering. I have nothing, I’ve lost it all. I can’t find a job. I don’t dare look for a partner while I’m a dead broke loser, so I have no one to share with.
Anyways, I apologize for whining and crying, I know we’re all going through things. But I have nowhere to vent and it just keeps getting worse and I honestly don’t think I’ll ever get out.
Love you all. Thanks for reading. Please think of me when you get a chance and send good vibes my way.
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To add to what someone else said, try to get some exercise. It can be free, and your brain needs some endorphins in there to help counteract all that pain. It won’t be a solution or anything, but it can help a little with the symptoms. Jogging, a pushup/situp regimen, whatever works for you. Can kinda give you a physical outlet for some of the pain sometimes.
Good luck.
I’ll agree with the exercise comments too. Its important from a psychological perspective. It may not feel like you’re doing much, but… you need it in all cases. When you’re feeling down like this, you can often forget to work on the basics (aka: eating healthy, working out, hygiene, and other health).
I was unemployed for nearly a year recently. IT work is inundated with talent pool bc of the FAANG downsizing about a year ago. . It’s coming back but slowly.
Sounds like you’re depressed which has the awesome side effect of altering how you would typically approach and perform in an interview - not in an ideal way. Being cognizant of that may help. Maybe you’re not but I know when I had the numbers you’re talking about sending resumes etc, I was pretty down. Each rejection took a little toll. Maybe try changing your resume up a bit, and practice soft skills for interviewing? Might help take time away from feeling bad about it-which I get.
2000 applications without a job says either resume is poorly done or you’re bad at interviews. If the callback rate is less than 1 in 20, improve the resume, otherwise improve your interview skills.
Hit the gym so your brain starts thinking better, also it obviously helps with a lot of downward feelings.
Incorrect. The tech sector had had a record number of layoffs (https://layoffs.fyi/) and hasn’t had any time to recover. In addition, a US law, section 174, took effect this year and changes taxes for software engineers and certain other tech workers.
I personally have never had issues finding work, but I have been unemployed for over 6 months. This is despite the fact I have been in the industry for over 2 decades, despite having tons of qualifications and even former employers recommending me.
Oh this happened to me last year, minus some details and add some others. Hope someone here has some advice because 988 didn’t help and I gotta stop crying before lunch is over
Edit actually here’s some advice I’m giving myself: see a therapist because internet strangers don’t know shit
My only bit of advice to offer is to modify your resume to make yourself look slightly less experienced and willing to take a lower role.
Tech industry is tough right now. Keep your head up. Things will ease.
Lie on your resume. As long as you can talk through it. I guarantee they’re lying to you on the JD.
I’m in tech. Have been for 20 years. Lemme get a look at that resume. After, you can call me and we talk. Maybe I can find where you’re falling out.