(i do post sometimes, especially since i like finding out potential reasons for why people do things)
i (at the time 16m) dated a girl a few years ago (at the time 15f) who claimed to completely lack empathy. she always talked about how terrible she was and how unlovable she was, and wondered why no one liked her.
when i wasn’t there 24/7, she’d abuse substances, harm herself, and the like. she reported hearing voices, had sleeping issues as well.
she also claims to feel no remorse and outright ghosted me after we broke up. we were friends and she suddenly ignored me when she was 16, i was 17 (female then) and right before we stopped talking i found out she was actually straight, not bi or lesbian, and she would send links to gore websites telling me that they were “funny”, “not that bad”, or that she “didn’t feel a thing”.
Oh no I’m sorry to hear that :( And I’m guessing my story here nudged you to reach out, I’m sorry. And that’s really shitty. How long ago was it that you last spoke?
February or earlier for sure
For what it’s worth, I was also blocked at a time in my saga. And might have even been the blocker once. I don’t think it’s the healthiest kind of relationship to have with someone lol. Especially with strong feelings involved. All that I can say worked in my situation was time apart and maybe a change in mindset since then too.
But I mean, sometimes people just suck too and are just bullies or bigots. And it’s admirable that you’re worried about her mental state here when you could probably still do with some healing yourself too. If it’s eating you up, I used to find that the best escape from this sort of spiralling out is to lose myself in a complicated RPG.