Write them a letter, make sure they get it. Tell them you wait until they are ready and old enough to meet you without their mother’s approval. Also talk to the mom, offer to watch the kids sometimes, in my experience moms love “time off”.
I have that exact scenario looming over me at the moment. I’m very scared of losing my bio children (3) over my mentally unstable partner choosing the alcoholic best friend over living with me. She has already refused any touch for more than a year. the only one hugging me are the little ones and I don’t know who i am without taking care of them anymore. Had a bad panic attack for the first time in my live.
Write them a letter, make sure they get it. Tell them you wait until they are ready and old enough to meet you without their mother’s approval. Also talk to the mom, offer to watch the kids sometimes, in my experience moms love “time off”.
I have that exact scenario looming over me at the moment. I’m very scared of losing my bio children (3) over my mentally unstable partner choosing the alcoholic best friend over living with me. She has already refused any touch for more than a year. the only one hugging me are the little ones and I don’t know who i am without taking care of them anymore. Had a bad panic attack for the first time in my live.
I wish you all the best.