My ex would always yell at me for pointless stuff and make me cry in front of his friends. They didn’t even like him, they just tolerated him.
My sister’s friend would blame my sister for stupid things and try to say it’s my sister’s fault, not hers. She would yell at her too and try to pass it off as a joke.
(We are very much healing now 🫂 Not perfect, but healing)
When I was in the ICU for months and I asked my husband to please just tell me it would be ok and he told me no and that he “couldn’t lie anymore” - refused to give me even a drop of comfort in my most dire hour, being ok didn’t have to mean I would live but that he and the kids would soldier on and he would try for them but instead I just got a no and scolded for asking.
That’s awful, but I want to believe it gave you extra willpower to recover, just to prove him wrong.
Spite is a hell of a motivator. I had an uncle who had only ~20% of his heart working after a heart attack and the doctors basically sent him home to die within months. That fucker lived for 5 years before it finally gave out.