I’m reminded of someone I know. He felt something similar for a long time. Ultimately he concluded that, for him, what he really wanted was to feel attractive and desirable. And sincr he believed that only women could have that, he spend years conflicted about wanting to be a woman.
After some time around sex-positive people, he had experiences that helped him feel desirable and attractive as a man. He realised that was what he actually wanted, and he’d just been taught beauty was a women-thing and thought he had to be a woman to have it.
Maybe that rings true for you, too. Maybe all you really want is to feel beautiful, wanted, desired. Maybe want you dislike isn’t your gender, but the role society has assigned you for it.
Only you can really figure that out. I just wondered if my friends story would mean something to you… Being trans is a valid answer, but it isn’t the right one for everybody.
Absolutely, and I am aware of that - it’s really the case with me. I do not dislike being male. I just dislike being ugly - not many people can claim to have spent 20 years as an involuntary celibate like me. I’m almost 50 and it just feels like so much wasted time. Wasted youth, really.
Going trans wouldn’t solve the problem at all. Nothing will solve the problem, to be honest. I have accepted my fate.
That sucks. You’re not made of flesh, you’re a network of electrical signals. You should be able to judge yourself by the attractiveness of your personality, not some homunculus meat vessel.
I’m reminded of someone I know. He felt something similar for a long time. Ultimately he concluded that, for him, what he really wanted was to feel attractive and desirable. And sincr he believed that only women could have that, he spend years conflicted about wanting to be a woman.
After some time around sex-positive people, he had experiences that helped him feel desirable and attractive as a man. He realised that was what he actually wanted, and he’d just been taught beauty was a women-thing and thought he had to be a woman to have it.
Maybe that rings true for you, too. Maybe all you really want is to feel beautiful, wanted, desired. Maybe want you dislike isn’t your gender, but the role society has assigned you for it.
Only you can really figure that out. I just wondered if my friends story would mean something to you… Being trans is a valid answer, but it isn’t the right one for everybody.
Absolutely, and I am aware of that - it’s really the case with me. I do not dislike being male. I just dislike being ugly - not many people can claim to have spent 20 years as an involuntary celibate like me. I’m almost 50 and it just feels like so much wasted time. Wasted youth, really.
Going trans wouldn’t solve the problem at all. Nothing will solve the problem, to be honest. I have accepted my fate.
Bro there are catgirls on Discord who think the physical world is an illusion and would cybersex you without ever looking at your face.
Most of them are gay, but there’s enough bi and straight ones that you have a chance.
Yes, they’d cybersex me without looking at my face, but that is precisely what would not at all fulfill my desire to be considered attractive.
And what if you did a roleplay where you were a big tiddy dragoness who everyone thought was hot?
Pretending doesn’t work for me, unfortunately. Gotta be real desire by real people for real me. It’s a curse.
That sucks. You’re not made of flesh, you’re a network of electrical signals. You should be able to judge yourself by the attractiveness of your personality, not some homunculus meat vessel.
I’m doing that, but I need other people to do that as well.
Discord catgirls, man, that’s what I’ve been saying