• masterspace@lemmy.ca
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    4 days ago

    I was depressed in high school and talking to my mom about happiness and one of the things she said to me, was that often real happiness comes from learning to be happy with being content.

    At the time I honestly found the thought kind of depressing, but it stuck with me and I’ve only seen it to be truer and truer as I’ve gotten older.

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      4 days ago

      Better than what my mom told my depressed teenage ass: “not every one can be happy” and “suicide is something weak cowards think about”. Thanks mom.

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        3 days ago

        I hope you know that what your mom said to you is not the whole truth. “suicide is something weak cowards think about” is true, but you don’t have to be a weak coward to think about suicide. “not every one can be happy” doesn’t mean you and your loved ones are destined to not be happy.

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          For anyone reading this you should know if you have suicidal or depresssed thoughts you are NOT weak or a coward despite what this person (or my mom) says.

          You can’t help feeling like shit and want the pain to stop. It does NOT say anything about you, other than you are suffering. Fuck anyone else who says otherwise.

          Survive another day.

          • eepydeeby@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            3 days ago

            Not to mention, in many situations suicidal feelings can be interpreted as a desire to mercy-kill oneself, which is more reflective of self respect than cowardice.

            Learning to live beside chronic suicidal feelings can look like staring it in the face every day and working to focus on the “mercy” part over the “kill” part.

            Its kind of a two-wolves situation, I think – but neither of those wolves are cowards.