actually there’s one weird one that I’ll put at the top because it might actually apply to the rest of you: everybody has nice pens. not like, fancy fountain pens, just the fancier rollerballs that feel smoother on the paper and the permanent markers with higher quality inks. like papermate inkjoys and real brand name sharpies. its a weirdly good indicator that they aren’t cutting corners elsewhere. a pizza party is a one-time expense, like a lovebombing abusive partner who buys you flowers the day after kicking your teeth in. pens are an everyday operating expense, and those costs add up. pens are one of the first things that are gonna get hit when the bean counters start getting their claws into the daily operational costs. good pens means they’re investing in the actual everyday working environment.

here were my first thoughts:

• good nurse to patient ratio (changes by specialty & facility acuity level)
• no mandatory overtime
• on-site security who are authorized to remove violent visitors
• good health insurance (they all suck but for the most part United bad, anthem good)
• no news articles about human rights violations
• low staff turnover / multiple nurses who have been there longer than 2 years
• when you do a shadow shift nobody is asking why they’re staffed so well today

…probably some other stuff I’m not thinking about.

eh if I took up travel nursing I’d probably still want something similar to a house or apartment to rent for 3-6 months because most hotels aren’t really designed to be lived in that long but I also don’t want to buy a wholeass house then worry about selling it in 6 months. but that’s splitting hairs, at what point do you just call that an extended stay hotel? but also at what point does an extended stay hotel become a rental property?

but every time I hear a “property owner” complain about how hard and expensive it is to own other people’s homes I’m just like my guy no one is making you do that if it’s so damn hard just sell it to the person who lives there except deep down you realize how good of a deal you’re getting you’re just mad everybody isn’t acting like you’re not a prick for it.

if you do the characteristic “teabagging” motion it saturates quickly. tbh I do it whichever way is most convenient since I’m almost always brewing on the way from one task in one part of my work area to a different one somewhere else. What I put into the travel mug first has much more to do with which one I get my hands on first than it does with any personal preference.

boofed it

My experience with the internet suggests that you are all but alone in that assertion. I was going to say I don’t know anything about that personally but Nick Wilde from zootopia did kind of get me (I’ve always had a soft spot for the trickster archetype).

tbh being more or less nonbinary I actually really love the approach to gender this book takes, and actually not because the Radch is largely gender abolitionist (although that is pretty great). Also: fair warning, this is a discussion about gender as a philosophical concept, sociopolitically speaking it’s a fact that trans people deserve to exist however they damn well please and people as a whole really need to stop acting like that substantially affects them. The fact that this has resulted in people feeling physically and economically unsafe is a huge problem that needs to be handled a lot better than we’re currently doing. To me, a big part of the reason I haven’t pursued any kind of gender changes on my government paperwork is that I really don’t think it was any of their business to begin with, and I don’t feel the need to give the government MORE information about my gender.

While the characters in the Murderbot Diaries definitely sucked me in more, the approach to gender in that one almost struck me as unrealistically subject to our current moralism around gender. Most of my interaction with gender as a concept is that it’s the way the culture that surrounds you perceives you. Not even just other individuals around you: the culture as a whole. I’m androgynous enough that while my gender tends to fall one way for most people, it’s not unusual for me to be perceived the other, both, or neither. A lot of people seem to have difficulty with the concept that I’m showing a reduced amount of gendered traits, while some just decide they don’t care altogether, and the variety of pronouns I overhear about myself is always interesting.

So while I understand the desire for self-determinism, it makes a lot more sense to me to see a world where gender is a lot more determined by things like what language the interaction is being conducted in. And while I love that the Radch is gender abolitionist, it also raises the point that just because you got rid of that one particular way people assign social standing, doesn’t mean you haven’t found other ways to do that and be shitty about it.

So both the upside and downside of oral THC is the longer onset time. On one hand that makes it significantly less habit forming, but that also means it’s not gonna give you that instant satisfaction of the shower beer or settling into the couch with a cocktail after work. Working 12s that actually makes it more or less completely nonviable; by the time it would hit I’m supposed to be in bed. You can somewhat get around that though by taking a tincture that absorbs sublingually / through the cheek. The other problem you’re going to run into with the longer onset is that addictive tendency to overdo it because in your head you’re thinking that if you don’t take “enough” it’ll take much longer to “correct” / titrate your dose upward to your desired level of baked.

yeah people don’t understand what I mean about the whole sobriety culture being fundamentally broken thing. We’ve built up so much shame as a culture around addictive behavior that we push people into this weird shame cycle instead of addressing the cultural and lifestyle factors that lead to all this. Like if I was going to drink again socially, the main thing I would need is a non-alcohol related social hobby that takes up most of my time. It’s not a question of me having had trouble drinking, it’s that I had too much stressing me out and wasn’t engaging in any other social activities so I was leaning on it way too hard. I’m not actually mentally healthier than when I was drinking and using the gummies, I’m just physically healthier and that’s hopefully going to give me the energy to go fix the mental health problems at… some point I guess. Still working on that one (the other myth of sobriety culture is that sobriety somehow = mentally healthy. It does not).

Also, if we suspect you’ve done so (such as a hx of inserting items into orifices or swallowing them for pica or malingering reasons), we would do an XRay or CT first.

Imagine pinhead from hellraisers turned inside out. Also they might heat up and burn too.

Last year I got down to roughly 115lb abs 6ft due to a combination of job stress, alcohol related gastritis, then when I used weed gummies to quit the booze I got cannabinoid hyperemesis (1 year no booze now, about 6 months no gummies. Might try one or the other again at some point but I’d need to address my lifestyle and job stressors first).

I went to see a gastroenterologist and their main advice was just to take the opportunity to eat terribly, or at least, what would normally be considered terribly. Normally calorie dense foods are ill advised because they lead to obesity but if you’re having trouble keeping on weight they’re exactly what you need.

I basically wound up living off snickers bars for a few months. Rock climbers actually use them for the same reason; there’s a looot of calories packed into those tiny bars, and a decent amount of it is fat / protein compared to similar options (maybe payday bars if you really wanna up the protein factor). The caveat here is that I also have IBS, so I needed to take Metamucil / psyllium husk fiber as well to make sure my stomach kept functioning well / keep the chocolate and sugar from agitating my colon, which also would have led to malabsorption / not absorbing the calories, which would have defeated the point.

You can get the fiber in capsules to just take with water instead of having to mix up a whole beverage to chug, but if you do that you need to make sure you stay hydrated so it doesn’t constipate you. I recommend getting a water bottle / skein of some kind that sits against your body well so it can stay with you on the move. I used one of those gallon bottles and would leave it on my work computer with a tall straw and just sip at it every time I stopped to chart, but it sounds like you might need something more around the size of a quart to strap to you.

Best of luck!

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Man this takes me back to highschool

Most girls I see with big curly (or other textured) hair use wraps or bonnets of some kind, usually silk. It does usually have a snug elastic band around the forehead, backs of the ears, and nape of the neck, but the top that holds the actual hair is usually looser and flowy. Another option is to contain the hair in a silk scarf wrapped in some sort of elaborate layered wrap system that you can either look up on YouTube or possibly go learn from a black or other curl / texture specializing hairdresser. If you’re looking for something more masculine, black men usually call it a do-rag, or you could get a bonnet that is in a darker more subdued color and side profile.

In either case you would have to accept that big textured hair does demand somewhat counter-cultural styles just for practical reasons; there’s a lot of stigma around them, at least in the states. I work in an institutional setting in a predominately black area and one of the more twisted bits of US irony is that we institutionalize black and other non-white people more often, then don’t stock the hair products they need, then send them to court looking a fucking mess.

We had a really really beautiful success / recovery story this week after I had an utterly hellish experience with the same patient the previous week and I was reflecting that I really live for those moments because it can be otherwise difficult to justify my role in this system, and I work in the kinder mental health half now, not the completely fucked correctional end. Sorry for the tangent, I’ve had some pretty big emotional highs and lows of late.

Symbolism was the point of the paper straw thing to begin with. We won’t see a reduction in single-use plastics until we get rid of the entire mindset of convenience culture. Plastics make it possible get the exact flavor of corn chips you like from gas station a state away from where you live at 2am. Plastics mean that flavor that only 2% of that local population like or would ever buy can wait on that shelf for 3 months until you’re craving it on a road trip. That entire way of thinking would have to be dismantled, and they need to fight us on this one little symbol to keep us from having that discussion.

Also to add: there are a bunch of applications we should be using plastics for. It’s a great material with some very unique properties that make it indispensable for certain applications. A great example a lot of people use actually specifically on the topic of straws is people with reduced mobility. Plastic bendable straws can give them a lot of independence in the process of feeding themselves and staying hydrated. Personally in my nursing practice, I specialize in the management of patients at high risk of violent behavior, and every time I show up to a code on another floor one of the first things I check for is that the patient’s meals are getting served on a “safety tray” which is where everything is made of flimsy plastic and Styrofoam so they can’t stab their care staff, wallop them over the head with the tray, or use the bowls as projectile weapons. Plastics are actually super handy, but getting rid of convenience culture would allow us to reserve them for the things they’re actually needed for.

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me: dafuq

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me: …yeah that tracks.

You win! Sorry I woke up really late this evening.

yeah I kinda mailed it in on this one. I’ve got more I could do but a lot of them aren’t as interesting as previous rounds. I seem to have gotten some growth here so I might go find my new shiny interest soon. I’m really enjoying the murderbot diaries right now my AuDHD is THRIVING.

Awkward by not talking is 100% better, especially from a strategic standpoint. I would be so much farther in life right now if I only knew how to keep my fat fucking mouth shut. There’s a reason the “strong silent type” is a trope. You might be a weird nervous awkward little fuck in there but nobody can prove it.

Yeah I’ve seen enough of these on YouTube that I figured it probably wouldn’t be too hard.

Mine are just all wrenches. Especially pliers; all pliers are wrenches I just call them by whatever color the grip is. In my defense, my partner wouldn’t know which ones to hand me without the color of the grip anyway so…