I’m also basing my opinion on personal experiences, as well as therapy and study on how trauma affects us.

However, like you said, not everyone has the same experience.

Forgive me for assuming that something being “Worse than death” means that death is the superior outcome.

I think polyamory happens a lot more than we realize. My old roommate had two committed partners for years, one of whom was married to someone else. Everyone knew about each other.

I knew a thruple who were unofficially married and lived together.

They have groups on social media for discussion and support, where I learned anything more than a thruple is “Polycule.”

I’m going to go out on a limb and say you’re probably younger than 25. I don’t think you’ve lived very long if you think one traumatic incident, or even a series of them, can ruin a life.

Suggesting someone’s life may not be worth living because of their trauma can be re-victimizing. Since rape and violence are often about power and control, statements like those give abusers more power than they deserve and do nothing to support the victims.

Looking at people brainstorm the worst things you can do to someone, they’re all just different ways to take away someone’s reason to live. And rape itself doesn’t take away someone’s will to live - but being considered a victim, saying they may be defined by someone else’s actions, forever - that’s the kind of thing that kills hope.

I might have some news for you about rape statistics - they’re pretty high. That’s telling a lot of people their experiences were worse than death, suggesting life isn’t worth living after rape. That’s a pretty brutal opinion to post on a public forum.

Air is stored in the titties.

I like your style

Also great. A fun series but dense as hell.

Ursula K Le Guin, Alaistair Reynolds, Margaret Atwood (For the Maddaddam trilogy,) Jules Verne, John Windham.

I recommend House of Suns, Terminal World and Revenger.

I’ve had a few good ones. They respected my time, talked to me like a person, treated me how they wanted to be treated, didn’t ask me to do anything outside of my job description without compensation, and acted like we were a team instead of boss/employee.

I had one real shitty job I stayed in because my supervisor was fantastic. Every shift, no matter how much of a clusterfuck it was, he genuinely thanked every single employee for their time.

Oh it’s the Orange Joe.

It’s almost like what used to be a popular drink in Ontario and Manitoba, but nearly unheard of anywhere else I’ve asked. It’s just Pilk with alcohol.

The Paralyzer:

1 part milk

2 parts pepsi or coca cola

1 ounce vodka

1 ounce coffee liqueur

Moe is such a talented lemonade merchant he has to stay open till the early hours to sate the townsfolk’s addiction to his citrus crack.

I appreciate that. I’m going to see if there’s anything published on/by them at my local library. (not sarcastic I love the library)

Restorative justice programs have been implemented in Indigenous Canadian communities with higher success than the existing contemporary justice system. With high recursion and incarceration rates for indigenous people, those programs address the root of crime without punishment while still holding perpetrators accountable. Most importantly, it’s done in a way that seeks to support rather than re-victimize those affected by crime.

I absolutely agree with the abolishionist movement but hadn’t known till now that it was large scale and worldwide. I agree with the changes being made locally without understanding the whole philosophy, basically. Thanks for giving me a good reason to learn more about it.

Are you drunk right now?

I mean these things should be legal in a world where coercion, manipulation and abuse are still frowned upon. Why I put capable of enthusiastic consent in there.

If a 30yo and a 60yo genuinely want to bang, I got no problem with that.

If you didn’t care what anyone thought, why did you post your opinion on the internet?

Getting your bike stolen is one of the worst feelings, too. Mine is my transportation and excercise, how I get to work and how I unwind.

Most bikes aren’t insured, like a car. There are resources to register your bike for free (Garage 529) in case it gets stolen. But unless people are actively searching for your bike, or someone tries to pawn it, on one’s checking those things.

If I caught someone trying to steal my bike I think I’d be within my rights to take a finger.

With all conditions being the same, a sober driver is still much safer than a drunk one. Traffic and hazards are not always predictable.