Tbh, my only issue with reddit is who owns it and the way in which they exploit that. As a product I’m pretty happy with it, and the thing that made it reduce in quality, losing a shitload of its moderators because reddit fucked them over, ISNT an area that Lemmy beats it in. When I started getting my foot out the door I started paying attention to how many mods an instance had when I blocked it, and the majority of Lemmy instances had like ONE active mod. Lemmy is effectively unmoderated, and I’m not a fan of that, especially with some of the population it has.

Im in the exact same page as you. Seeing a mod remove comments because people weren’t capitalizing another users pronouns was the straw that broke my back the first time I yeeted Lemmy, the next time I came back to lemmy there was a whole thing about u/vegan banning people for saying that feeding a vegan diet to a carnivore pet was animal abuse. I’d LIKE lemmy to be usable if you dont have a tolerance for extremism, but I’m not holding my breath