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Cake day: June 16th, 2024

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  • If people only knew how many anti/sec professionals do this, this would be in a zone with ASCII art, not Wired, but frankly, after what Poulson and Lamo did to Chelsea Manning, I really don’t expect better from the media specifically marketed to those with an interest in anything tech related. I did before that happened, but after the absolute apathy from the public sector, if not outright hostility toward Ms. Manning, I expected and do expect the absolute worst, for the sake of sweet, profitable clicks. What I continue to be surprised about is how utterly bottomless this particular hole is. Really a black hole more than a mere abyss.





    1. You are not broken. You’re unwell, and you can heal.

    2. Those things you mentioned are unwell behaviors.

    3. What matters is you’re not well and you need to get better. You do that with therapy, exploring the behaviors, then a. What am I feeling, b. What triggered that feeling, c. What wound got touched that tripped the trigger d. What healthy self-talk would facilitate healing the wound, the source of this particular trigger, feeling, self talk.

    4. Seriously, get a good therapist trained and paid to explore these things with you. The Internet ain’t it. While we all may or not mean well, many of us think "normative” means healthy normal, and it doesn’t. We could easily and inadvertently cause your health to get worse, rather than better.

    5. I’m not wishing you luck, because you don’t need that. You need a therapist, the will to work on yourself, a lot of self forgiveness, self compassion, self love. I started with self -talk. Would I say to a friend what I said to myself? Them I’ve no business talking to myself that way. I won’t say it will be fast or easy. With patience, diligence, love and forgiveness, you can and will get better. I believe in you!