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  • Learn to support yourself. It doesn’t sound like that’s something you’ve had to do yet, and it also sounds like your father is allowing you to avoid that lesson. This is important for a couple of reasons.

    • Your father will not always be able (or willing) to support you, and then what?
    • Without the ability to support yourself, you will find yourself less and less willing to step out of that comfortable spot, and you will miss opportunities. Your wording of “I’m of use to him” also suggests that your father could be using you. You depend on him for financial support, he depends on you for keeping house. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing all by itself, but it’s really textbook codependency. It’s one thing to choose that for your life; it’s another to not really have a choice about it.

    The both of you need to learn how to be adults, I think.