Can you elaborate on the validation part please? I’m about twice your age, and my assessment comes from comics and memes like this. And it’s scary how close some of these hit.

conflict seeking behavior

Holy fuck that’s one giant bell to ring. I got to get diagnosed.

"Violence as a way of achieving racial justice is both impractical and immoral. I am not unmindful of the fact that violence often brings about momentary results. Nations have frequently won their independence in battle. But in spite of temporary victories, violence never brings permanent peace. It solves no social problem: it merely creates new and more complicated ones. Violence is impractical because it is a descending spiral ending in destruction for all. It is immoral because it seeks to humiliate the opponent rather than win his understanding: it seeks to annihilate rather than convert. Violence is immoral because it thrives on hatred rather than love. It destroys community and makes brotherhood impossible. It leaves society in monologue rather than dialogue. Violence ends up defeating itself.”

1964, I guess white oppressors forced him to write this.