Em Adespoton

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Cake day: June 4th, 2023

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  • Knowing stuff can be a curse, especially when you’re 10 steps ahead of everyone else in the room and you know they’re just going to need the time to figure it out on their own.

    But being smart means you know how and when to apply your knowledge. So you can provide the information when it’s actually useful and not when it just gets blank stares.

    And knowing stuff but NOT talking about it all the time, and not using “told you so” means that when you DO speak, anyone who matters will listen and take you seriously.

    I find that slipping useful knowledge into self-deprecating jokes is a useful way to get people to listen to it.




  • Part of what it points to is what you’re currently paying attention to. You don’t notice all the people who aren’t what you consider “good looking”.

    Later in life, you’ll notice how many people have children in strollers, or drive fancy cars, or can afford houses. You may start noticing how many people own dogs, run regularly outside, or never look up from their phones.

    It’s a form of selection bias; you tend to see the people that are most likely to catch your attention, and ignore the rest.

    Try an exercise: start checking to see how many people you see in public smile with their eyes.