iOS has a nice default set of privacy respecting apps. iOS isn’t perfect but it’s as close as you can get to having a usable phone while having some sort of privacy.
Android always sends requests to Google. A de-googled phone with no Play Services is too limiting.
I did not meant fully degoogled androids! Sorry for the confusion. But most people running custom ROMs add Google play support/emulation because most apps use it.
As for microG, since I’m coming from GrapheneOS, I don’t know much about it. Might be a better solution