When I look at your profile and go to posts section, I see one page, and all but the last few are to Erotic Art. Your profile only shows Cooking under the “Moderates” section.

Maybe whatever instance the Art and Design community is on is defederated from my instance (Lemmy.ca)? I’m not sure.

Whether I’m blind or not is none of your concern, and saying that isn’t helping your cause.

You moderate Cooking, but all your posts are to Erotic Art. I took a guess based on the information I see. My other points still stand.

Stop looking for love and learn to love yourself. You are at your best when you are alone and not torn between introversion and tending to a relationship. It’s one or the other and you always default to the former. Always has been.

You’re getting downvotes because you are insulting real people, and you didn’t ask a question.

Why do you care so much about followers? You’re not going to monetize your Lemmy account. If you stop posting, your community will see less activity as you discovered.

I looked at your profile and I have to assume the community you’re talking about is the “Erotic Art” one. Personally the only time I visit NSFW communities on here is so that I can block them. Maybe enough of the regular user base browsing All did that and now you see a decline in traffic. Or, maybe there is some demand for it and you just need to keep posting consistently to see growth.

Either way I think you should delete this post and reflect on how you’re behaving. It’s ok to get frustrated, but taking it out on all of Lemmy isn’t going to help.