I think the main takeaway here is that you recognize washing is the appropriate thing to do, but are OK with a temporary wipe until your next shower. People are saying with a bidet you don’t have to wait, you use wash each time.

I agree it’s gone off the rails and I’m partly to blame. I just don’t understand peoples reluctance to use bidets.

So you’re OK with your asshole having some shit remaining on it because it only touches your underwear?

I feel for your SO.