Focus on things you can improve. Make small improvements, incremental change, not drastic change.

If you can tolerate it bone conduction headphones are a option too! But they don’t have the same rich soundscape, but variety is good!

Yeah depending on long long you need to wear a headset is a important factor!

Now I’m really confused; The desire to build and raise a family is part of the asexual spectrum? That, to my uneducated lay, perspective feels like a very sexual activity (not as in the act of sex, but sexual in terms of reproductive roles and duties and desires).

I hope your able to find good people in your local area that you can spend time with, and hopefully someone to click with. Opening this discussion about having too high standards and then moving the conversation into being lonely tells me you have options, but your not happy with the options. Come to peace with the people around you and don’t be lonely anymore.

Open backed headphones will vent your ears, and they have a richer soundscape

You have a large buffet of friends to choose from… and one sad reality in couples is one of them will “leave” first, so handling change is just part of life.

If you identify as asexual then why are you upset with partner selection?

its super effective!

Buying stuff with cash is explicitly illegal now?

If your desired population doesn’t respond to your social or financial status - you need to keep improving it.

Don’t spend so much time online, spend time with real people. Evolution isn’t a static thing, your designed to maximize your local situation; Don’t let social media, porn, television set your standards.

Sounds like you have internalized body dysphoria for other people… like the guy who falls in love with his Manga characters and nobody in real life can measure up.

Things you can control:

• diet
• exercise
• social status
• financial status

Play with these variables until you get a outcome you like.

Less reflection from the panel will impact the energy retained by the earth. I speculate it will increase heart temperature.

I lost track of time, how is it Wednesday already???

deleted because im stressed about the mod here no hate

We are all just people here, doing our best. You shouldn’t let some internet forum discord cause you stress. I have nothing but good thoughts for you, and I wish you the best.

I agree with what other people have said plus:

The bed should only be used for sleeping, when you wake up get out of bed and don’t go back. Don’t use your laptop or phone in bed, if you still have a tv - don’t watch it in bed.

This helps set the situational subconscious expectation that the bed is for sleeping.

A two way bridge - yes

If you find value in the book, it doesn’t matter who wrote it. Now… author reputation is a good metric, if a AI is consistently pumping out good books… then its time to welcome the robot overlords.

Asking other people you trust for recommendations is a great starting point.

Most of it doesn’t matter, so summaries aren’t of much use. You do occasionally get the year in review compilations.

Very important stuff is going to stay relevant, in the new cycle, in your community social circle, for a long period of time. So you’ll be kept abreast of it that way

Not lost, you boost their active user numbers

Context matters:

Taking a group photo? Stock photo models? PR? Greeter? - yes, asking someone to smile for a goal is fine

Someone just minding their own business - no, asking them to smile is selfish and just for your personal satisfaction. People don’t need to justify to you why they don’t feel like smiling. It’s rude to demand it of others