In time I hope you feel happier and more comfortable just being you, regardless of being with someone. Being able to find self worth solo makes you much, much more rounded as a person, healthier, and ultimately a better partner too. Good luck.

The comment above is a half serious joke, but you do seem rather desperate for the approval of your partner and their validation. This isn’t totally healthy, and on one hand can be suffocating potentially, but can also be abused by a bad actor if you happen to date one. And those kinds of partners can sense and prey on that part of you.

I hope you have some positive friendships and relationships to help offset whatever is driving this feeling in you. In a perfect world, I’d say speak with a therapist but who can afford healthcare nowadays.

This is a hard thing to just say, but I hope you can understand that some of your fear and jealousy here is probably stemming from a lack of self confidence.

I say this, because I hope you can reflect on that, and be aware that some partners will understand and exploit that if you are not careful. This guy doesn’t sound like that, but maybe your next relationship is.

As others have said, try to have open communication, and accept sometimes if your values are fundamentally different. Sometimes people just are. Some can have open relationships happily, some thing looking at porn is cheating. Without judgement, both can be valid as long as both partners communicate and agree on that.

My feeling is generally the more secure you are in yourself and your sexuality, the less jealous and the less concerned you will be come with these things, and the more confidence you will have to cut off shitty partners who violate the norms you set. If your relationship is okay with porn, but not dating apps, then fuck them of they are browsing Tinder, even “just to look”.

Communicate, but also value yourself. This guy may be perfect, but maybe he’s not perfect for you. And that’s okay. Your chances of meeting someone gold are far better than you think if you keep your head up and go in eyes wide open than try and ignore issues.

Anyways, I hope some of this is moderately helpful to you. I hope you and him can work out, but I also hope you don’t compare yourself to camgirls or porn, ever. Fantasies are just that, we all have them. And they should never hurt your self worth.

Be well.

Hello comrade.

I didn’t even know raccoon existed.

But I love that Lemmy has so many options.

Will check it out. Seems the dev is working on an update for Android 15 compatibility.

The TTS uses whisper and absolutely dominates. But it is garbage still as a swipe interface. It direly needs to catch up on that front before I can recommend it full-time to friends. I spend SO much time retyping things it gets wrong.

Been using Connect, and currently trying Summit (very nice interface).

I might give Thunder a try.

So long as this is genuone, and not a stealth sabotage, that’s a genuinely good response and reaction.

I would respond to them that that isn’t a bad idea, so long as the therapist isn’t “primed” on the issue, and you’re able to actually go in with a blank slate.

Also, no idea where you live, but in the US make sure your therapist agrees to keep your therapy notes in some kind of shorthand. Musk and Trump don’t care about violating HIPPA to harm your rights, so be smart yea?

This is the way.

Features and reliability are my metrics.

Dualsense Edge is the best feature-wise, imo. Costs too much though. But you can replace sticks that wear out.

Next up for me would be a Dualsense modded with hall effect sticks. These are great.

Best budget pick is the latest 8bitdo pad with hall effect. I think one of them is only 30 bucks, avoids the stick drift and should last a long time.

It’s trying and I paid for it. But the swiping accuracy is shit still, and it has limited language support.

When your movie is on the frontpage of Netflix with a handful of A listers and effectively “free”, a half billion views is actually not that great. You were handed success on a silver platter.

I have 0 interest until I hear it has mod support and they don’t lock it into their “creation club” only.