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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • scarabic@lemmy.worldtocats@lemmy.worldHe chose violence
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    1 hour ago

    This is a crisis in my house right now. We adopted a trio of siblings when they were kittens and they have mostly got along great. But there have now been two incidents when the big orange male drew blood from his calico sister. The first went unnoticed at first and developed into a full infection requiring surgery and a drain tube and weeks in the cone, all for poor little innocent calico sister. Then again recently he cut a long slice down the bridge of her nose that made it look like her face was about to fly off her skull like a rubber band snapping. In between all this: months and years of cuddling and play. Now we’re sitting here wondering if it is responsible to wait for a third episode.







  • There are many good responses here already and I’m going to add a perspective I don’t see.

    As a coworker: don’t do anything. Sometimes work is an opportunity for someone to escape the personal tragedy that has swept through their life. It’s a chance to think about something else for a while, something grounded and neutral. A time to feel normal.

    That can be a very helpful support. Reminding them of the personal stuff may ruin that.

    I know that you are a nice human and want to be good to them, but sometimes we need to realize that we are just co-workers to someone and not friends and family. Knowing your place can be an incredibly respectful and positive thing to do.

    Add this to your other ideas about how to show sympathy. It’s just one angle. I’m not saying this is always right 100% for everyone and bar nothing.