Maybe I am wrong, but even if I’m not trying to control my daughter too much, and we don’t have to solve issues like that yet (she’s 10), I wonder. If she was 17-18, and I received a message like: “my son is planning to fuck your daughter this friday at our house”, I might have ruined that experience for her. At least partly because her weirdo parents are writing me about that, so maybe they have a weirdo son.
I think I’d prefer to just meet the guy in an official boyfriend status when she feels like introducing him to me.
“I have this situation, what do I do?” is a completely normal thing to discuss. Should you write “my friend has this situation”? Or just not post anything?