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Cake day: June 16th, 2023

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  • This is likely not what you want to hear, but whether it is societal or personal doesn’t matter.

    Regardless of the source of these feelings, you have identified and laid out personal behaviors that are negatively effecting your quality of life.

    You already seem to know that you need to work on them. Getting help from a therapist with that might make it easier.

    Being stuck in a forest fire might not be related to personal choices either, but the proper respomse to the situation has to come from you anyway.


    That out of the way, you aren’t wrong. Modern life is designed by companies to maximize their short term profits by any means available. Generally that means making their products as addictive as legally allowable and fostering feelings of fomo (fear of missing out).

    But here’s the thing: there is no possible way you could ever possibly experience everything you might possibly enjoy in life. You’ve already lost that battle by simply existing. There’s too much stuff, with more made all the time.

    That means that there will always be things around for you to enjoy when you have the time to do so!

    You can also try to step back from these things and spend more time in nature. They can’t monetize staring at plants or walking through the woods.


    Lastly, life is not always about maximizing happiness, especially not maximizing short term happiness. Sometimes proper self care means denying yourself things.

    You wouldn’t tell a diabetic that it’s fine to eat nothing but icecream and cake for days at a time. You wouldn’t let a child that hasn’t been potty trained run around without a diaper.

    Unless you have worse problems than what you appear to, you don’t piss yourself because you’d rather not stop what you’re doing to walk to the bathroom. I’d expect that idea is quite repulsive to you. That’s already something you deny yourself for your own good, you just have been doing it for so long (nearly your whole damn life) it’s now just something you do.

    Forcing yourself to make better choices isn’t easy, but if you do it for long enough it becomes easier. It’s habit building, which is harder but still possible with ADHD.



  • Don’t waste your effort. You see similar in every discussion on this site about landlords too. No nuance allowed.

    The local guy renting out his late parents’ home at below market rate is just as despicable as the slumlord lackeys of the investment companies that don’t do any upkeep.