On the one hand, my father lost his dad when he was 12, so he is not perfect. I want to assume he is atleast trying his best. But this past year, “his best” was “OK with punching his children” and as far as I know, hasnt seen his grand children. (My sister has a kid. Living happy with her partner. Since sister and partner is not married, my dad doesnt acknowlege them.)
Im OK with skipping the birthday text to father, but mother (who i still talk to) insist i send the text.
It was just phrased in a way difficult for me to understand. If you’re so upset what he did that you don’t want to reach out to him then there’s your answer.
I’m sorry a parent acted in a way that hurt you and others. I know how that is.
Why do people wish people wish people happy birthday to each other, wven if you dont care / dont know each other?