Asking this as a Qatari with a polygamous father. My father’s second wife is Swedish and I know it was a tough pill to swallow for her family and friends back home.

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    That’s not how STI’s work. You don’t get something if no one has it lol

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        Betting on married partners being honest is peak ignorance or wishful thinking

        What a sad life you must have

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          It’s just opsec, dude. When other people’s lives are on the line, that’s how you have to think. Don’t be so judgemental.

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            It’s opsec to think your partners are lying to you? Why do you care so much. This whole thread needs to date

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              Literally yes. Everyone lies. Every human being lies. Hell, probably every MAMMAL lies. Your partner lies to you. People fuck up. Statistically, you’re going to get cheated on in this lifetime.

              When you are ostensibly monogamous, it is perfectly acceptable to assume your partner is 100% exclusive under any circumstances, because you are not putting anyone else at risk, and that assumption probably makes you happier. When you are poly, you cannot make that assumption and are ethically obliged to make the contrary assumption. This looks like: getting frequent STI tests, requiring the same of your partners, discussing risks, negotiating what risks are acceptable and how to practice safer sex that meets everyone’s needs, and having the integrity to do what you say and say what you do.

              You can trust your partner. You cannot expect your other partners to also trust your partner.