I’ve always wondered this. Some people have trouble with dating because they try to go for people out of their league who don’t like them back. But society also tells us that we can’t choose who we are attracted to. Like for example, no one makes a “choice” to be gay.
So what happens when you’re only attracted to those out of their league that will never ever like them back?
Do the people with this issue still date? But when they date, they lie to their partner that they are into them? I have been on a couple of dates with someone I wasn’t into before. It make me incredibly guilty and dishonest that I did not like them back.
Curious as to the experience/thoughts of others.
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When you say that you only find people who are “out of your league” attractive, you’re basically saying that you expect the person you want to date to hold themselves to a higher standard than you are willing to apply towards yourself. Essentially you feel entitled to a partner who will work diligently to be the person you feel you deserve, but you’re not willing to do the same for them.
There are two solutions to this problem: either you can put in the effort to raise yourself to the same standards that you expect from others, or you can lower your expectations.
Stop blaming made up “leagues” for your problems.