My boyfriend really struggled with this when we first met. He had very strong believes but struggled with the fact that the “rules” of his religion meant for him to spent his time after death without me. We worked through the whole “if a person is objectively good and still not allowed in paradise because they didn’t spent their time worshipping instead, how can this be about being a good person and not a cult?” spiel. Today he still believes in God and all that stuff but got rid of the whole fanclub and their weird membership rules and fees.

His parents still have a hard time with this but I feel like for him personally it was liberating.