You love who you love, who you get along with.
My parents would never accept a non Muslim man, but is it bad to say I don’t really care??
I’d be scared to death to marry a Muslim woman.
I grew up in the Bible belt and had religion shoved down my throat until my early teens. I’m agonistic, bordering atheist. More on why I brought that up later.
You may just be starting to read between the lines and see that things that make no sense. The rules that are designed to control, to keep people in line.
DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE. WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU.
My wife is from a Muslim country, but happens to be from one of the few Christian majority cities there, her family aside from her dad are all pretty religious. My wife was also quite religious when we met. I have always been open about my position but respected hers with one caveat that we ended up agreeing on. Our child will not be indoctrinated into religion, they will decide on their own when they are old enough to make an informed decision on their own. She has been to church with him several times and they (the church) tried to make it “fun” and would manipulate things in a way that bordered outright lies to try to keep him involved. He started seeing through the bullshit and said no more.
Over time she has seen things that I pointed out about them (I was involved in their chat group for some time) and the hippocritical things they would say and do. She started noticing it on her own and with her own family. She still believes in God but is starting to disagree with her religion.
Her family respects my stance, her mom reluctantly so but she does see that I respect them and their choice even if I don’t agree with it. So while I kinda brought my own story into this (sorry for that not trying to make it about me) I wanted to provide an example. Her family accepts her choice and respects me. They even recently flew over and spent 6 months with us. If your family has religion shoved so far up their ass they they wouldn’t accept your choice to be with someone that is either from a different religion or not religious at all, they aren’t worth your effort, time, or respect. Because they very obviously care more about their religion and the control it/they have over you, rather than caring about you and what YOU want or feel.
I found this part of Christianity so toxic as well. It was freeing to let it go
My boyfriend really struggled with this when we first met. He had very strong believes but struggled with the fact that the “rules” of his religion meant for him to spent his time after death without me. We worked through the whole “if a person is objectively good and still not allowed in paradise because they didn’t spent their time worshipping instead, how can this be about being a good person and not a cult?” spiel. Today he still believes in God and all that stuff but got rid of the whole fanclub and their weird membership rules and fees.
His parents still have a hard time with this but I feel like for him personally it was liberating.
Is he Muslim and you not in this case? I’m confused.
I can see that as liberating to let go of that.