I find it’s often better to help yourself before you help others. You shouldn’t ignore others but instead spend more of your energy and focus on yourself first.
I’ve seen and experienced people who focused all their energy on helping others while ignoring their own issues. Their help was often too much in an overwhelming way and would cause others to react in a way where they would be worse off than before. Now two people feel worse. The helper for not being able to help and the helpee who has been overwhelmed.
A person only has so much energy. It may feel selfish to help yourself first. Others may try to guilt you for putting yourself first but they aren’t you and they don’t know your needs and limits.
You do you first. Then when you are ready to help others, you can actually help them because you have a clearer head to focus on them.
I find it’s often better to help yourself before you help others. You shouldn’t ignore others but instead spend more of your energy and focus on yourself first.
I’ve seen and experienced people who focused all their energy on helping others while ignoring their own issues. Their help was often too much in an overwhelming way and would cause others to react in a way where they would be worse off than before. Now two people feel worse. The helper for not being able to help and the helpee who has been overwhelmed.
A person only has so much energy. It may feel selfish to help yourself first. Others may try to guilt you for putting yourself first but they aren’t you and they don’t know your needs and limits.
You do you first. Then when you are ready to help others, you can actually help them because you have a clearer head to focus on them.