What’s your number 1 tip?

  • salvaria@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    3 days ago

    If you wouldn’t say it to someone you love, you shouldn’t say it to yourself. A big example of this for me was if I screw something up, instead of telling myself what an idiot I am, I acknowledge that I made a mistake and I’ll do my best to learn from it so that I don’t do it again.

  • Lv_InSaNe_vL@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    Go outside and get a walk in.

    I’m not going to say it’s a perfect cure-all for everything, but a 30 minute walk outside most days is scientifically proven to help with depression, help keep you more level, help with stress, and is just really good for you which has all sorts of secondary effects.

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    3 days ago

    Use social media in browser only, and use keyword filters (browser plugin) to get rid of all the shit I don’t want to hear about.

  • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    When panicking, use a grounding technique. My favorite is to look around you and pick five items, then imagine what it would be like to lick them. What would it taste like? Feel like? Smell like? Would it make a sound?

    It’s stupid but it has worked for me many times.

    • gid@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 days ago

      Oooh that’s similar to one I was taught:

      Look around and try identify 5 different objects

      Close your eyes and try to identify 4 different sounds

      Run your fingers over your clothes and try to identify 3 different textures

      Breathe in through your nose and try to identify 2 different smells

      Run your tongue around your teeth and try to identify a taste

      (Adjust as needed for your body and sense perceptions).

  • hangry@slrpnk.net
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    3 days ago

    I don’t know if it is generally good advice, but this personally saved me from spiraling immediately after a traumatic event. When I started, it felt like a thin line between mild depression and utter insanity:

    Sleep and wake up at the exact same time every single day, with no exception (obviously as much as you can).
    For the first hour then, do the same sequence of actions (eg. drink coffee, listen to podcast, stretch, …).

    Waking extremely early is best for me as I end up alone in quiet, but I assume this would work even for a night owl.
    It is like keeping an anchor in your daily life, when everything else is confusion.

  • B0NK3RS@lemmy.world
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    One of the biggest for me has been the reward/accomplishment thing. If I want to watch a movie for example then I need to do a chore (s) before I let myself. Want to play games then I need to shower and brush my teeth before I’m allowed.

    Then the increased benefit is the more you feel good the more you are willing to do each time.

  • confusedpuppy@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    3 days ago

    I find it’s often better to help yourself before you help others. You shouldn’t ignore others but instead spend more of your energy and focus on yourself first.

    I’ve seen and experienced people who focused all their energy on helping others while ignoring their own issues. Their help was often too much in an overwhelming way and would cause others to react in a way where they would be worse off than before. Now two people feel worse. The helper for not being able to help and the helpee who has been overwhelmed.

    A person only has so much energy. It may feel selfish to help yourself first. Others may try to guilt you for putting yourself first but they aren’t you and they don’t know your needs and limits.

    You do you first. Then when you are ready to help others, you can actually help them because you have a clearer head to focus on them.