They hadn’t invented gloves back then?

I just want to compliment you for spelling and using “kowtow” correctly

if you actually believe the fox news ass all men are rapists line

I heard that first-hand from women on this site.

you wouldn’t argue if I said all bears are dangerous

Yeah no shit, that’s the point.

Trying. It’ll be at least another week before normal. Then I’ve pledged to focus on core at the gym. This shit sucks.

Because retailers are middle-men by definition.

Hell, a large amount of local businesses’ stock is probably bought on Amazon Business.

Hey man that’s awesome.

I think giving blood will eventually be one of those things kids are amazed people used to do. Like, in the future we’ll have extremely cheap synthesized blood, and kids will be amazed that millions of people used to voluntarily give their blood to save others’ lives.

I live in a fairly small, poor, remote suburb of my city’s district. The city is divided into districts, with a representative for each district, and the power of the city government is largely in the hands of these representatives. My neighborhood is part of a district that, due to geography, is mostly very separated from us (think like a long thin line sticking way out of the main body of the district with my neighborhood on the end of it).

Certain city boards were trying to make up revenue by taxing our neighborhood specifically in various ways. We were obviously furious about it. We have regularly scheduled community town halls, like all the districts, and our rep shows up at them.

The town hall after the taxation proposal was released was scheduled to run from 3pm to 6pm. It lasted until well after midnight.

My district rep stayed there the whole time, obviously exhausted but still asking questions and opinions of the speakers and making promises. He promised to do something about it. And sure enough, within a month, the city boards backtracked on the taxation scheme.

We’re a poor neighborhood, and we’re not super numerous either. He didn’t have to help us, he could have sacrificed us to subsidize the main body of the district. But he didn’t, he stayed all night and then went and fought for us in the city government. He later went on to higher offices at the state and federal level.

Also, I once accidentally touched the Mayor’s boob at a party rally, so that could count I guess.

I was referring to IRL safe spaces and support groups.

Making men’s spaces online specifically has the dual problem of being attacked by both misogynists and radical feminists. It’s a lot of work and a lot of hate to deal with, so they don’t pop up a lot. But yes, they do exist, there’s a semi-active menslib community on lemmy for example. I think that one veers way too heavily into the “us men are really awful aren’t we?” feminist takes, personally; the reddit one was a lot better.

no one is saying all men are rapists

You know that’s not true.

You know that’s not what I’m talking about.

While I agree with you, I don’t think it’s fair to characterize all of society as misandrist based on that. There’s a significant number of things that you’re ignoring or are not privy to, where women are harmed by men. The patriarchy isn’t just this fantasy that feminists made up, it’s a real thing, and while not as powerful as it used to be it still harms women substantially.

I think it’s fairer to say that some parts of our culture are misandrist, some misogynist. And on the whole, women have it worse - but men also have it pretty bad.

I’m in my 30s and probably at over 100 rejections like, total in my life. I’ve never been looking for long term relationships so I do try with a larger number of women than most men. But like…hundreds of rejections between success? That’s absurd. You’d run out of women.

Man, I have been in SO MANY internet arguments where I am simultaneously arguing against a woman that yes, men have problems, while also arguing against a man that no, those problems are not worse on the whole than women have.

Back when the whole “bear in the woods” thing was going around misogynists would try to jump in and support me.

Woman: “all men are rapists”

Me: “that’s insulting and hurtful and misandrist, and also not even close to true”

Misogynist: “Yeah! And also women are heartless bitches!”

Me: “I don’t remember asking YOU a goddamn thing”

Men don’t always isolate by choice. There’s a large cultural aversion to creating and sustaining male-only spaces, and that aversion comes from all sectors.

Every college campus has a women’s club but if you try making a men’s club you’ll probably get reprimanded.

k.

Well I would definitely put blahaj down as a queer-focused space rather than a women-focused space. It’s inclusive, women are welcome, but the community there is very much about queer issues.

I don’t think we can equate “queer space” with “women’s space”.

You really don’t see the benefit to a group of similar people to have a space focused on them, their wants and needs and daily lives? A community of people like them? It’s one of the most fundamental human desires.

In a personal sense, I define productivity mainly as objectively measurable accomplishment over a period of time. If I used time productively, I either improved my circumstances (or my employer’s circumstances, when they’re paying me for my time) or worked towards that improvement in a permanent way. Research and learning is productive, when it furthers my ability to improve my circumstances. Research and learning for its own sake is only mildly productive in that it makes me a more knowledgeable person.

Leisure activity is NOT productive, mostly, but that’s not a bad thing. The main thing is to avoid COUNTER productive activities. Leisure activity is somewhat productive when it allows me to rest and recuperate and be more productive later.

Productivity involves “getting things done” but only when those things matter. Making my bed every day has no discernible benefit to me, so that time is not spent productively. The dude in front of my house with his loud-ass leaf blower spending an hour blowing a single leaf all around the street is not being productive. Sure, it’s more productive than sitting catatonically, but not by much. It’s productive to him in the sense that he’s getting paid for that time, but it’s not productive on behalf of his employer (who is, in a sense, me via my landlord).

I doubt it. If you don’t provide context, people will provide their own context. And then the question is just a kind of Rorschach test.