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Cake day: February 6th, 2024

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  • If you like food/eating, consider culinary courses and see if you like it as a discipline (just one example).

    I was in a very similar boat for years, and then I realized that at least 50% of the issue wasn’t not having an interest, it was failing to see the massive variety of jobs out there and how some can relate to sources of joy I already appreciate. And I was assuming that if I wanted to follow a passion, I had to be the best at it and ready/excited to do a bunch of unrelated things to get to the top.

    Pursuing a passion doesn’t mean starting a business, being the best at something, or achieving a goal you’ve had since 1st grade. It might be realizing that you like going to the beach a lot, and then seeing if town hall is hiring for Parks and Rec groundskeepers. Maybe it turns out you love the community garden plots you end up working on, too.

    Last note, it may be that you have to try a few jobs in order to find out what you do and don’t like about each, and therefore what you’re looking for in your ultimate career. This is another good reason to lower the stakes on your choice–it’ll be just as helpful to figure out what you don’t want to do with the first few experiments, and it may leave you with a constellation of job characteristics that point you in a specific direction. You find out you love spreadsheets and finding patterns in data, awesome, they need you anywhere. You find out you hate it and want to work completely offline? There’s a massive shortage of trade workers. All info is good info here, and remember it’s never too late for a pivot. Good luck!












  • It is possible that many soft foods could still cause issues, like small seeds in a smoothie or the skin of a bean getting stuck somewhere and causing issues. I’d follow the common advice in this thread and take some ideas of very soft foods to your doctor and ask about them specifically. Might as well make sure, but if they double down on only those 3 foods being safe, I’d trust em at that point.

    Smoothies and beans are top options if you have any flexibility though, so many ways you can make/flavor both.


  • My grandfather did the same time and time again, really ticked me off. I tried to live up to the mantle, but full-sized clocks were too big. I couldn’t even bear to watch. The difference may feel minute, but my grandpa always rubbed it in. He’d say “what’s mine is hours.” The man could kill time like no other, though, gotta hand it to that cuckoo bastard.






  • “One more thing, I almost forgot… My wife tells me my memory is so bad, she’s surprised I remember the route to work, I’ll tell you. But this one loose end just keeps bothering me–how exactly is the US defending democracy by interfering in free, open elections? Anyway I’ll leave you to it, have a lovely night.”



  • If you’re totally uninterested, independently of potential awkwardness, I’d basically explain as much. “I think you’re cool and we have a lot in common, but I’ve been thinking and realized I might not be comfortable with the age difference and potentially changing the group dynamic.”

    If it’s purely the potential external consequences that have you ready to cut off the possibility, and you could actually see yourself in a relationship with them, I’d say you could mention that concern, but don’t let it make the decision for you. Sounds like this is someone likely to understand social anxiety and who also values the group dynamic, so I doubt they’d react super negatively to mentioning that you want to be careful about that and preserve it while seeing if there’s more there between the two of you.