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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • I think couples therapy is a good idea. It is very likely that both of you have things to work on. I also have my own experiences of making mistakes in the past, then getting so upset with myself I don’t leave any mental capacity to actually try to improve. Medications and therapy for my ADHD has helped a lot on that. Some resources that may be helpful are on YouTube. How to ADHD and Healthy Gamer GG are ones I am aware of.





  • A practice that I find helpful is repeating back what I thought I heard. This gives evidence to the other person you are paying attention and provides an opportunity for immediate corrections if I got something wrong.

    I also agree with other people of not depending on your brain. Computers are very good at remembering precisely what you tell them. They also offer reminders for variable amounts of time before. I have had Google calendar events with reminders set for 1 week, 1 day, and 1 hour before a single event.




  • My wife and I were living together for more than a decade before we got married. Our primary reasons for getting married were tax benefits and reducing legal complications if one of is in the is hospitalized or dies. Our wedding was followed at the court house followed by a very fancy lunch with 2 friends that acted as our witness’s.

    Getting married has made no real difference in our relationship, besides now we split a joint tax return.