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  • We’re all here for entertainment. This isn’t news or information about the real world, it’s a hypothetical that’s asking for your advice.

    If it’s fake, it’s a fun thought experiment.

    If it’s real, it’s a fun thought experiment.

    You can choose to

    1. participate, thereby strengthening our community.

    2. ignore it, having no positive or negative effect on our community.

    3. shit on it, thereby weakening our community.








  • This may depend on jurisdiction. Joint accounts were not frozen in my case. A death certificate was only required to remove the deceased party from the accounts.

    What happens if your partner sets up your home network and TV subscriptions and their email account is locked because you’re not the account holder.

    In my case I was able to present the death certificate to the providers and the accounts were quickly closed, with the appropriate billing and hardware returns. It was no more inconvenient than a normal return.

    I was fortunate. The deceased planned ahead and did all of the things I haven’t done: arranging a funeral and burial, keeping their will up to date, writing down their usernames/passwords, and making the appropriate joint bank accounts.

    This is repeated across every single aspect of modern life. Your robot vacuum cleaner is linked to a single person, as are your IoT lightbulbs. It’s absurd.

    My experience was with established services in mature sectors: they have procedures for dealing with deceased customers’ accounts. It was relatively convenient, even at a really shitty time.

    None of that is easy, convenient or handled.

    Why not?

    Newer services don’t have that institutional experience. They haven’t existed long enough. But they’re starting to: Facebook has the concept of deceased users. As time goes on, more “new” services will as well.



  • Can you provide examples?

    From what I’ve seen in Canada, death is handled like a standard event:

    • Most businesses, banks, and government services have fast and convenient closing out paths when someone dies. In most cases a single phonecall/visit is enough to close an account and get the appropriate statements.

    • Lawyers follow an established path when handling wills. Unless there’s contention, it’s pretty easy to “finish” the will.

    • Funeral homes do an excellent job at handling the deceased’s body, providing grief counseling, running the funeral, and ensuring the cemetery accepts the remains. So long as it’s preplanned, the family and friends just need to show up.

    • Government policy around executing a will is generally easy to understand and work with.

    • Banks will act as executors. I’m not sure if they do a good job, but it’s relatively inexpensive.

    • Health care providers do not try to prolong life for the elderly. From what I’ve seen, they are quick to prescribe end of life care.

    • Palliative care is handled by empathic and helpful professionals. There could be improvements in grief counseling.

    • My social group was empathic and caring. Family helped as much as possible, as did friends. I doubt this is true for everyone.

    What else are you referring to, OP?






  • sbv@sh.itjust.workstoParenting@lemmy.worldAnyone deluded?
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    6 days ago

    I had an elderly relative say something similar to me in the early 90s. We aren’t special. People have felt this way forever.

    I’m not optimistic about the future, but I don’t think things will necessarily be that bad. Looking at child mortality rates alone, you could say that we’re leaving in a golden age. There’s a lot that’s wrong, but there’s a lot that’s okay too.