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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • Like textbooks? Or pop-science non-fiction? Or novels that may delve into neurology?

    Neuroscience 6th ed, Purves
    Functional Neuroanatomy and Clinical Neuroscience, Uysal

    The Diving Bell and the Butterfly, by Jean-Baptiste Bauby
    The Brain that Changes Itself, by By Norman Doidge

    Flowers for Algernon, by Daniel Keyes
    Altered Carbon, by Richard Morgan

    Those last two are science fiction, and take significant liberties with neuroscience, but they are good books.

    Edit to second The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat. I read that in high school and it really got me into psychology and neuroscience.





  • I don’t think people are seeing the true American heart. I think Americans are seeing the truth in their neighbors’ hearts, though. We’ve been in denial about who we are and our responsibility to the world, because we trusted that our core values (freedom, equality, justice) would endure through scandals and fraudsters and would-be tyrants. Americans were lulled to sleep by casual prosperity and nominal world-leadership. We believed that the critics of America “hate freedom” or were jealous of our well-deserved success. Trump is the inexorable conclusion of that laziness, the funhouse mirror reflection of our own indifference to the world.

    I believe most people, anywhere, are good people and want to be good people. The differences arise from defining what is “good” but largely we all want freedom, justice, and equality for ourselves. Extending that to others is a question of empathy, and empathy is created by exposure. America’s heart is our diversity, our multiculturalism, and we let that heart become overrun with bigots and tyrants.

    That’s what the world is seeing, and has seen for 100 years. Bigots and tyrants, claiming moral superiority. It is the Americans who are just now seeing it for the first time.


  • It’s an economics thing. Like what would you say is a fair price for something that would take a contractor an hour? $200 plus materials? Does that seem high maybe? If you’re a contractor, that probably seems low. $500? Maybe that gets you out of bed.

    If they take a big job that will require a week of work, they might charge $2,000. Now, you think, 5 days, 40 hours, that’s $50 an hour and you were willing to pay ten times that. The difference is that $2,000 job is more likely to result in more work, more hours, with higher budgets. The $500 handyman project is an entire day, between travel and planning and tool maintenance and procuring materials. It’s a day you’re not prospecting. It’s a day where you can’t pay any employees.

    And that’s before you consider that most customers didn’t even want to pay the $200. They’re going to grumble and complain that you’re robbing them, that they don’t make that much an hour at their desk job. They are going to demand a level of perfection that isn’t in the budget, and changes and scope creep because they want to get their money’s worth. They will bad-mouth you to their friends and family and internet and anyone that will listen.

    It’s the 80/20 rule. 80% of anything comes from 20% of sources, whether you’re talking about profits or headaches. So you put effort into finding the good 20 and avoiding the bad 20, which means focusing on large projects and avoiding small projects.

    Any contractor with a few years of experience has had nightmare projects. There’s also some psychological gymnastics on that side of the coin, because contractors who have bad experiences on a larger project are likely to justify or forget the annoyances because the experience was “worth it,” while the small job that caused any trouble at all is going to be extra frustrating because of the perceived lack of value.








  • I ask for summaries and examples for things I understand well but struggle to explain. Sometimes it’s very helpful, and sometimes it’s just deranged nonsense.

    That’s why I’m less likely to ask it to about something I don’t already know. How would I know if the answer is accurate or coherent? At least with something like Wikipedia, I can track down a source and look for foundational truth, even if it is hidden under layers of bias.




  • I moved into an apartment with my girlfriend (and her roommate) after being together only a year, and we’re married now. We weren’t much older than you are now (22 and 21). The concerning part is the rest of the family.

    You’ve answered a lot of questions, so don’t feel the need to respond to these, but you should know the answers for yourself.

    Would you share a bed? Will you be able to hear her parents getting frisky? Because then they will be able to hear you. What if you have to take an epic shit, but her mom has just called everyone down to dinner? What if you go to take a shower and her father has clogged the drain with hair?

    What is your alternative plan if you don’t move in with them?

    Sharing a roof means intimacy with everyone in the building. There’s very little privacy, and escape is complicated. If you see her as a forever partner, and don’t mind making yourself vulnerable to her family, then actually I probably still wouldn’t do it even under those circumstances.