On the one hand, my father lost his dad when he was 12, so he is not perfect. I want to assume he is atleast trying his best. But this past year, “his best” was “OK with punching his children” and as far as I know, hasnt seen his grand children. (My sister has a kid. Living happy with her partner. Since sister and partner is not married, my dad doesnt acknowlege them.)
Im OK with skipping the birthday text to father, but mother (who i still talk to) insist i send the text.
This is hard to understand. Could you expand or write more clearly
Dad punched kids last year. Dads birthday this weekend. Do I wish him a happy birthday? (Mom knows what Dad did, but insists i wish him a happy birthday) (Not sure if you were actually curious of my dilema, or just want me to break it down and answer my own question, but you did the 2nd one)
It was just phrased in a way difficult for me to understand. If you’re so upset what he did that you don’t want to reach out to him then there’s your answer.
I’m sorry a parent acted in a way that hurt you and others. I know how that is.
Why do people wish people wish people happy birthday to each other, wven if you dont care / dont know each other?