What does someone have to do that means no amount of remorse or effort to fix things will get you to forgive them? I don’t mean forgive and forget to the point where they can hurt you again. If someone repeatedly steals from you, forgiveness doesn’t mean putting them in a position where they can steal again.
I’m asking this purely out of curiosity. I’m just wondering what the attitude in my corner of the internet is.
I am not sure - this is a great question though - at what point do you let it keep harming you instead of letting it go? All the complicated social systems of revenge and avenging and reparation built around this.
You can forgive while also opting out of the situation, though. Forgiveness doesn’t always mean a continued relationship.
I don’t mean letting them keep harming you - I mean when do you think it’s worth keeping the hate inside you, the unforgiveness. It doesn’t do anything to harm the offender, it’s only harmful to the victim.
So when is it worth holding on to that at your own expense? It’s a good question.