• jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works
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    4 days ago

    Have kids. You’ll be so busy you’ll forget what day of the week it is until 5 minutes before you’re supposed to go pick your new car up.

    …I’m kidding. Don’t do that. Kids are very expensive.

    • dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.deOP
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      4 days ago

      I’m self aware enough to realise I would be a terrible parent, like I would be great and engaging but I am also not really well put together mentally and I think I would suck.

      Plus I have no desire to date. Today is my birthday and I’m over 40 and content. 😌

      • Kamikazimatt@sh.itjust.works
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        4 days ago

        You already sound like you would be a fine parent! At least you recognize you’re not super well put together. Most parents I’ve seen out and about have no clue and think they’re great.

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          3 days ago

          Thanks for saying that and I agree that far too many parents shouldn’t be.

          It says a lot of the kind of upbringing I’ve had and how I’ve seen others raise children, as I was at rock climbing, indoor, the other day and watched this father coach his 5-7 year old up this climb and then try to get him to rappel back down. The kid kept holding the wrong line and so didn’t move down the wall. The father was so patient and explained everything and gave him tips at the bottom and I just thought that’s rare in my world. I’m used to people shouting when things are not correct.

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      4 days ago

      And a big commitment. And people will look you weird if you try to give them back and say you don’t want the deal anymore. You can’t win.