• But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    Yes, dad mom is a derogatory way of essentially saying that men who cook, clean and take care of their babies are moms/women. It’s an extension of the view that men aren’t supposed to do that stuff so when they do, they’re behaving like women.

    It’s the same toxic reason why people say to dads “oh you’re baby sitting?” No that’s literally my child, you can’t babysit your own kids

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      2 days ago

      Yeah that’s the vibe I felt as well. Well said! Like saying poor single mother versus super dad.

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      2 days ago

      I didn’t interpret it as derogatory or toxic here though. This is intended to be wholesome so I took it to mean “Dads who provide caregiving in any multitude of ways that some might consider a traditional mother’s role”. So if we assume that and no extra baggage, I think that’s worth celebrating too.

      Of course with the cultural baggage, you would be right. I just don’t think that was implied here.