Call me an asshole if you’re so inclined, I’m not wishing someone a happy mother’s day because they have a pet.
Pets are not children
They have completely different physical and psychological needs and wants, and they need to be respected as a member of their species
Speaking as someone who has 2 dogs, 3 cats, and no kids
They are my companions, and i am their caregiver. But they are not my children
Fostering kittens involve getting up every 2-4 hours to feed a whole litter of cats for several weeks. Some volunteers take it upon themselves to do this for several litters a year because of animal abuse, abandonment, and neglect by shitty people.
That’s more than some deadbeat parents have ever done.
Not asking you to call them a mom, just asking you not to downplay the impact of animal care.
That’s more than some deadbeat parents have ever done.
And we don’t typically celebrate those people on any holiday. You obviously feel strongly about this but please try to step back and realize I never said a word about animal stewardship. The existence of shite parents says absolutely nothing about the worth of animal stewardship because I believe they are not related beyond a general grasp of empathy. And even that’s tenuous if I’m allowed to believe people that say they’d sacrifice a person to save a dog.
Calling yourself a “furbaby mama” I’ll not try to gainsay, even if I do think it’s silly. But expecting people to address them as a “mother/father/parent” is something else.
You obviously feel to the need to tell people they’re overreacting anytime you feel attacked, but please try to step back and realize I never said you should call them a mom. Weird how often this happens on my account with a female name.
I simply pointed out that being a pet owner alone shouldn’t preclude one from the same kind of appreciation, provided that they put in just as, if not more, effort than some mothers do. Fostering kittens is intense work, and being an animal fostering parent isn’t something to be scoffed at as a ‘silly’ title.
No, I tell people they are overreacting when they attempt to push me into a position I never started at for some personal reason I cannot fathom. And that’s me being polite.
I brought the topic back to my stance on not calling pet owners (the primary demographic I’ve encountered who call themselves “furbaby parents”) “mother” on Mother’s Day because that was what my first comment said and was always about. Not anything about denigrating people that take care of animals. And certainly not because you have a female username. Once again, you’re trying to push my words into a weird position for your personal reasons. First trying to claim I think less of people that take care of animals and now apparently trying to tar me as some sort of sexist?
My wife is pregnant and wants to keep this her last not-a-mother’s day lol
Funny, mine’s the opposite. My wife is pregnant right now with our first, and was insistant this was her zero-th Mother’s Day. Next year will be her first “real” Mother’s Day, but she wanted something small this year.
My friend is a florist, so she helped me get a nice floral arrangement put together for her yesterday. My wife cried. It was very nice.
Best wishes for a safe pregnancy and delivery, and happy tears next year as well.
If someone saw me with my cat and wished me a Happy Mother’s Day, I would have several questions. I’d honestly feel like I was doing something weird. Like, is it how I’m holding her? Why would you say that?
What is a dad-mom? A single father, stay at home dad, or what? Wouldn’t both instances be celebrated on Father’s Day?
Let the people be happy and appreciate each other. Who cares. If it was up to me I would Abolish both days, replacing them with “Parents’ day” and I would also put the “Single Parent’s day” right tomorrow after that day. That way single parents would get 2 days of celebration with no interruption.
I agree, but I can still ask what something means dawg.
Fully disagree with parents day because each parents deserves a day that’s singularly theirs.
lol, why would single parents need a day outside of parents day?
I think because they are doing something typically done by 2 people single-handedly
Fully disagree with parents day because each parents deserves a day that’s singularly theirs.
As the child of lesbians I have bad news about each parent getting their own day…
Well we all know one fo them was a mom-dad and one of them was the mom-mom.
/s just in case.
Good thing it’s obviously that’s who I was referring to.
Yes, dad mom is a derogatory way of essentially saying that men who cook, clean and take care of their babies are moms/women. It’s an extension of the view that men aren’t supposed to do that stuff so when they do, they’re behaving like women.
It’s the same toxic reason why people say to dads “oh you’re baby sitting?” No that’s literally my child, you can’t babysit your own kids
Yeah that’s the vibe I felt as well. Well said! Like saying poor single mother versus super dad.
I didn’t interpret it as derogatory or toxic here though. This is intended to be wholesome so I took it to mean “Dads who provide caregiving in any multitude of ways that some might consider a traditional mother’s role”. So if we assume that and no extra baggage, I think that’s worth celebrating too.
Of course with the cultural baggage, you would be right. I just don’t think that was implied here.
I’m not entirely sure; they could be celebrated on both days for full coverage I suppose
My kids mom isn’t in their life anymore because she decided to leave and so it’s just the three of us. My closest friend calls me to tell me happy Mother’s Day and happy Father’s Day every year. It doesn’t change anything but it’s kind of nice to know someone understands the load.
That’s really sweet
Single parents pull double duty generally. So the kids sometimes celebrate them twice. I’m curious about how same sex couples with children do it are they both celebrated on one day or does one get father’s day and the other mothers day?
Maybe a gay couple that adopted? One is celebrated on Mothers’ day and the other one on Fathers’ day.
Maybe that’s what the pink implies? Good catch
The dad mom made me think of the Mother’s Day episode of Modern Family with Cam and Mitch where Cam was getting the celebration on Mother’s Day.
Hahaha! That’s a great example. I have a lesbian couple friend that does it the same way. Their wedding also one wore a tux and one a dress. Depends on the couple and people though
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I didn’t have a great mom. This is the first mother’s day where my first instinct was to look around and see all the great moms in my life instead of just hating that my mom has a holiday. Like the one waking up next to me (who is not my kids’ bio-mom but is nevertheless a great mom), my grown daughter who has fur babies, and the various moms involved in our kids’ schools. There are lots of great moms out there.
Great post. :)
Friendmom is missing
Hugs to those friendmoms who (have) help(ed) our kids survive those first years out of the nest.
Yeah this isn’t it.
Why even have the day if everyone counts as a mom?
To recognize people who take that role in your life.
There are billions of moms in the world, but each one of us only have one or two. It’s not just about celebrating every mom, it’s also about acknowledging what your mom meant to you.
