• oceanA
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    What is a dad-mom? A single father, stay at home dad, or what? Wouldn’t both instances be celebrated on Father’s Day?

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      Let the people be happy and appreciate each other. Who cares. If it was up to me I would Abolish both days, replacing them with “Parents’ day” and I would also put the “Single Parent’s day” right tomorrow after that day. That way single parents would get 2 days of celebration with no interruption.

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        I agree, but I can still ask what something means dawg.

        Fully disagree with parents day because each parents deserves a day that’s singularly theirs.

        lol, why would single parents need a day outside of parents day?

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          Fully disagree with parents day because each parents deserves a day that’s singularly theirs.

          As the child of lesbians I have bad news about each parent getting their own day…

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            Well we all know one fo them was a mom-dad and one of them was the mom-mom.

            /s just in case.

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            Good thing it’s obviously that’s who I was referring to.

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      Yes, dad mom is a derogatory way of essentially saying that men who cook, clean and take care of their babies are moms/women. It’s an extension of the view that men aren’t supposed to do that stuff so when they do, they’re behaving like women.

      It’s the same toxic reason why people say to dads “oh you’re baby sitting?” No that’s literally my child, you can’t babysit your own kids

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        Yeah that’s the vibe I felt as well. Well said! Like saying poor single mother versus super dad.

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        I didn’t interpret it as derogatory or toxic here though. This is intended to be wholesome so I took it to mean “Dads who provide caregiving in any multitude of ways that some might consider a traditional mother’s role”. So if we assume that and no extra baggage, I think that’s worth celebrating too.

        Of course with the cultural baggage, you would be right. I just don’t think that was implied here.

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      My kids mom isn’t in their life anymore because she decided to leave and so it’s just the three of us. My closest friend calls me to tell me happy Mother’s Day and happy Father’s Day every year. It doesn’t change anything but it’s kind of nice to know someone understands the load.

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      Single parents pull double duty generally. So the kids sometimes celebrate them twice. I’m curious about how same sex couples with children do it are they both celebrated on one day or does one get father’s day and the other mothers day?

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      Maybe a gay couple that adopted? One is celebrated on Mothers’ day and the other one on Fathers’ day.

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        Maybe that’s what the pink implies? Good catch

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      The dad mom made me think of the Mother’s Day episode of Modern Family with Cam and Mitch where Cam was getting the celebration on Mother’s Day.

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        Hahaha! That’s a great example. I have a lesbian couple friend that does it the same way. Their wedding also one wore a tux and one a dress. Depends on the couple and people though