Why do so many people do this incorrectly. Unless you are actually serving a public then you don’t need to open anything other than a WireGuard tunnel. My phone automatically connects to WireGuard as soon as I disconnect from my home WiFi so I have access to every single one of my services and only have to expose one port and service.

If you are going through setting up caddy or nginx proxy manager or anything else and you’re not serving a public… you’re dumb.

Why is it too much asking your partner to use wireguard? I installed wireguard for my wife on her iPhone, she can access everything in our home network like she was at home, and she doesn’t even know that she is using VPN.

For point number 2, security through obscurity is not security.
Besides, all issued certificates are logged publicly. You can search them here https://crt.sh/

Nginx Proxy Manager is easy to set up and will do LE acme certs, has a nice GUI to manage it.

If it’s just access to your stuff for people you trust, use tailscale or wireguard (or some other VPN of your choice) instead of opening ports to the wild internet.
Much less risk

I came here to upvote the post that mentions haproxy, but I can’t see it, so I’m resorting to writing one!

Haproxy is super fast, highly configurable, and if you don’t have the config nailed down just right won’t start so you know you’ve messed something up right away :-)

It will handle encryption too, so you don’t need to bother changing the config on your internal server, just tweak your firewall rules to let whatever box you have haproxy running on (you have a DMZ, right?) see the server, and you are good to go.

Google and stackexchange are your friends for config snippets. And I find the actual documentation is good too.

Configure it with certificates from let’s encrypt and you are off to the races.

Tailscale is very popular among people I know who have similar problems. Supposedly it’s pretty transparent and easy to use.

If you want to do it yourself, setting up dyndns and a wireguard node on your network (with the wireguard udp port forwarded to it) is probably the easiest path. The official wireguard vpn app is pretty good at least for android and mac, and for a linux client you can just set up the wireguard thing directly. There are pretty good tutorials for this iirc.

Some dns name pointing to your home IP might in theory be an indication to potential hackers that there’s something there, but just having an alive IP on the internet will already get you malicious scans. Wireguard doesn’t respond unless the incoming packet is properly signed so it doesn’t show up in a regular scan.

Geo-restriction might just give a false sense of security. Fail2ban is probably overkill for a single udp port. Better to invest in having automatic security upgrades on and making your internal network more zero trust

If security is one of your concerns, search for “HTTP client side certificates”. TL;DR: you can create certificates to authenticate the client and configure the server to allow connections only from trusted devices. It adds extra security because attackers cannot leverage known vulnerabilities on the services you host since they are blocked at http level.

It is a little difficult to find good and updated documentation but I managed to make it work with nginx. The downside is that Firefox mobile doesn’t support them, but Firefox PC and Chrome have no issues.

Of course you want also a server side certificate, the easiest way is to get it from Let’s Encrypt

Either tailscale or cloudflare tunnels are the most adapted solution as other comments said.

For tailscale, as you already set it up, just make sure you have an exit node where your services are. I had to do a bit of tinkering to make sure that the ips were resolved : its just an argument to the tailscale command.

But if you dont want to use tailscale because its to complicated to your partner, then cloudlfare tunnels is the other way to go.

How it works is by creating a tunnel between your services and cloudlare, kind of how a vpn would work. You usually use the cloudlfared CLI or directly throught Cloudflare’s website to configure the tunnel. You should have a DNS imported to cloudflare by the way, because you have to do a binding such as : service.mydns.com -> myservice.local Cloudlfare can resolve your local service and expose it to a public url.

Just so you know, cloudlfare tunnels are free for some of that usage, however cloudlfare has the keys for your ssl traffic, so they in theory could have a look at your requests.

best of luck for the setup !

Cloudflare

nixos with nginx services does all proxying and ssl stuff, fail2ban is there as well

Nginx Proxy Manager + LetsEncrypt.

How do you handle SSL certs and internet access in your setup?

I have NPM running as “gateway” between my LAN and the Internet and let handle it all of my vertificates using the built-in Let’s Encrypt features. None of my hosted applications know anything about certificates in their Docker containers.

As for your questions:

1. You can and should – it makes managing the applications much easier. You should use some containerization. Subdomains and correct routing will be done by the reverse proxy. You basically tell the proxy “when a request for foo.example.com comes in, forward it to myserver.local, port 12345” where 12345 is the port the container communicates over.
2. 100% depends on your use case. I purchased a domain because I host stuff for external access, too. I just have my setup to report it’s external IP address to my domain provider. It basically is some dynamic DNS service but with a “real domain”. If you plan to just host for yourself and your friends, some generic subdomain from a dynamic DNS service would do the trick. (Using NPMs Let’s Encrypt configuration will work with that, too.)
3. You can’t. Every georestricting can be circumvented. If you want to restrict access, use HTTP basic auth. You can set that up using NPM, too. So users authenticate against NPM and only when it was successful,m the routing to the actual content will be done.
4. You might want to look into Cloudflare Tunnel to hide your real IP address and protect against DDoS attacks.
5. No 🙂

5). Hey OP, don’t worry, this can seem kind of scary at first, but it is not that difficult. I’ve skimmed some of the other comments and there are plenty of good tips here.

2). Yes, you will want your own domain and there is no fear of other people “knowing it” if you have everything set up correctly.

1b). Any cheap VPS will do and you don’t need to worry about it being virtualized rather than dedicated. What you really care about is bandwidth speed and limits because a reverse proxy is typically very light on resources. You would be surprised how little CPU/memory it needs.

1a). I use a cheap VPS from RackNerd. Once you have access to your VPS, just install your proxy directly into the OS or in Docker. Whichever is easier. The most important thing for choosing a reverse proxy is automatic TLS/Let’s Encrypt. I saw a comment from you about certbot… don’t bother with all that nonsense. Either Traefik, Caddy, or Nginx Proxy Manager (not vanilla Nginx) will do all this for you–I personally use Traefik unless for some reason I can’t. Way less headaches. The second most important thing to decide is how your VPS in the cloud will connect back to your home securely… I personally use Tailscale for that and it works perfectly fine.

3). Honestly, I think Fail2Ban and geo restrictions are overdoing it. Fail2ban has never gotten me any lift because any sort of modern brute force attack will come from a botnet that has 1000s of unique IPs… never triggering Fail2ban because no repeat offenders. Just ensure your VPS has a firewall enabled and you know what ports you are exposing from Docker and you should be good. If your services don’t natively support authentication, look into something like Authelia or Authentik. Rather than Fail2Ban and/or geo restrictions, I would be more inclined to suggest a WAF like Caddy WAF before I reached for geo restrictions. Again, assuming your concern is security, a WAF would do way more for you than IP restrictions which are easily circumvented.

4). Have fun!

EDIT: formatting

I used to do a reverse proxy setup with caddy , but now I self host a Wireguard VPN. It has access to Nextcloud on the same machine, Home Assistant and Kodi on another. On our phones, Wireguard only has access to certain apps the rest of the network traffic is normal, so a nice simple setup.

It doesn’t improve security much to host your reverse proxy outside your network, but it does hide your home IP if you care.

If your app can exploited over the web and through a proxy it doesn’t matter if that proxy is on the same machine or over the network.

The biggest reason to use VPN is that some ISPs may take issue with you running a web server over a residential service when they see incoming HTTP requests to your IP. If you don’t want to require VPN, then Cloudflare tunnels are perfect for this and they also solve the need for dynamic DNS if you want to use static domain because your domain points to the Cloudflare edge servers and they route it to you wherever your tunnel endpoint is running.

Past that, Traefik is a great reverse proxy that can manage getting LetsEnrcypt SSL certificates for you even with wildcard domains and would still work fine with dynamic DNS.