I know sex toys are generally a personal thing. But they’re also expensive and fun. How would you feel if a guy you’re hooking up with owned a vibrator and wanted to use it on you?
If I were into guys then yeah, it’d be fine as long as we cleaned it properly before use.
As long as it’s properly cleaned, it should be fine. STDs can’t last very long outside the body. However, you don’t have to use it if you don’t want.
It’s common in kink circles, but so is proper cleaning. It is common to use Madacide or similar hospital grade cleaners with toys that will be shared. At home we use a chlorhexidine surgical wash on all our toys.
I wouldn’t trust a random guy during a vanilla encounter to have proper cleaning and storage techniques, but would be fine if he showed me that he did.
I mean, regardless of whether or not you know it’s been cleaned…it’s ok to say “no”. It’s perfectly ok for some people to feel comfortable with this and for others not to be. Your average sex toy isn’t that expensive. I can’t imagine it would be a huge ordeal to just buy a new one if you are uncomfortable.
I have actually experienced this. I didn’t mind that he had toys, but I did not want them used on me.
Can we clarify if they properly wash their toys between partners? A large proportion of sex toys are designed to be safe to throw in a pot of boiling water (think plugs, dildos etc…) and most other ones are handwashable so… are the toys getting a reasonable amount of cleaning between use?
(Also, this question can probably be ungendered as there are plenty of sex toys for everyone).
Can we clarify if they properly wash their toys between partners?
I feel we should assume so. I doubt anyone would be ok with an uncleaned sextoy. Hell, I wouldn’t even be ok with my own uncleaned sextoys.
Definitely washing it well after the fact, is that something that I should mention?
You have to scrape crusty grime off before use.
I don’t think it really matters because the person who thinks it’s okay to use sex toys on multiple random partners probably isn’t the type to be extra diligent about cleaning them. There’s no way to guarantee to the partner that they’ve done any cleaning on it at all and they should understand that.
I mean you kind of have to accept that a sex partner used the very same body parts with other people, and if anything, those are even harder to sterilize. So your assumption that a person who doesn’t share with you an irrational greater concern about toys is untrustworthy seems problematic.
Source: you made it the fuck up.
While I’m positive the situation you describe occurs, it is a rarity. Even when using sex toys with one partner you want to clean them after use, same way you would a dinner plate (especially funny given how many are dishwasher safe).
That being said, I do typically try to send sex toys along with previous partners, and only really dive into their use once a relationship gets more serious - if someone absolutely needs them to be satisfied sexually, they probably own their own.
Of course I made it up. We’re discussing a hypothetical scenario here where OP is asking our opinions on the matter.
You’re positive it’s a rarity based on what exactly? Let’s see that source.
Yes of course they should be cleaned after use just like you should regularly wash your hands, wipe/wash your ass after pooping, shower, brush your teeth, cover your mouth and nose when you sneeze, etc yet many people fail at these as well. There’s lots of nasty people out there.
There’s zero way to confirm whether the person with the sex toy has cleaned it properly unless you physically helped them with it, so I don’t see any scenario where I would find this acceptable and I would be repulsed at the suggestion and implication of someone asking to use a used toy on me.
The source is not being someone like you, that clearly doesn’t bang a lot of people - nothing wrong with that inherently, but yours sounds clearly hypothetically whereas mine is anecdotal - both just pissing in the wind, but at least my stream is aimed downwind and not spraying back into my face
You can… boil it in front of them.
Or you could just not use it at all. Do you typically start your romantic encounters with a boiling pot of water and a second-hand sex toy? What exactly is the upside for the woman in this scenario?
You’re right. I forgot completely what I learned in sex-ed:
A dildo, fresh from the factory line, is like a big, beautiful Kielbasa.
But what happens when multiple people get their lips around this mammoth hot dog? That’s right, it becomes chewed, shriveled, broken, and ugly. Like a meat raisin. Or a slim jim. Or one part of a twizzler.
A dildo with just two partners has already lost about 25% of its girth. Is that right, boys? Shouldn’t you be purchasing your best?
#dildo_monogamy
Whatever you say, bud. I’m sure the ladies are just as thrilled when you try to convince then that it’s totally okay to reuse a condom used on someone else because you washed it off in the sink.
Depends on the woman, but some enjoy it for personal reasons. Like, I have multiple friends I’ve watched take the same dildo (at different events) connected to a F machine and they love just getting drilled by it in front of their friends. And we all know the owner of the machine/dildo properly cleans and sanitizes it between events.
My entire friend group is kinky and poly, so I understand I’m not exactly a normal responder.
E: I think it’s important to note that these are non-poros dildos, so there’s no worries about fluid bonding. Also, condoms are helpful in preventing that as well.
My ex wife left various toys and accessories when we got divorced and there were definitely a few tinder dates who seemed into the idea of “general admission” toys. Maybe not something to bring up on the first date but it’s usually pretty obvious what kind of partner is going to be open to that kind of thing after a couple encounters.
Go to [email protected] and ask there.
And please use the NSFW checkbox to flag your vibrator related questions as not safe for work.
I work in a vibrator factory, so all good here.
If you’re going to come into the thread with such a comment you could at least offer us all free samples.
Best I can do is grab some of the ones out of the QC reject pile, but I have to warn that they aren’t washed and the QC guy is out half the time due to IBS.
Please do let me know if you folks are hiring. I too am willing to have severe IBS.
If the knowledge that vibrators exist makes you that uncomfortable that’s on you
I am disqualified from the first criteria (unless Trump’s recent declaration is indeed canon), however:
Has he stuck his dick in other women? Is he going to stick it in you, too? Same difference, right? Or maybe fingers are a better example, since nobody’s going to wear gloves or stick a rubber on their digits for that. Insist it’s been cleaned, no matter what it is. And put a jimmy hat on it if necessary for the object in question (and you can stick a condom on most dildos/vibrators, too).
People will get hung up on the toys because, “eww, weird” and not realize that “weird” is actually the root of their objection.
and not realize that “weird” is actually the root of their objection.
Dude, sooo often. It’s so common. I’m crying internally.
I wouldn’t mind as long as I don’t have to use it.
I don’t even wanna know. But if they tell me, it better be washed properly or better yet, just let me wash it myself lol
My partner would find this disgusting
Context. I know kinky dom men who keep a Hitachi along with their floggers and clamps, and they might bring it out on a first time partner. They also tend to clean it and may even wrap a condom around it.
If you own and use waterproof toys, I highly recommend a dishwasher with a “sanitize” cycle.
That’s fine for the butt plug, but what about everything else in there with it?
