I was trying to explain federated websites to a friend and she asked if there is a federated dating app. She recently went through a break up and the apps are dreadful as I’m sure many of you know.

It’d be hard to launch a dating system on the fediverse because it the type of service that relies heavily on network effects. People want to be on the dating app with the most people. However, I think there is an opportunity because the mainstream apps are so notoriously awful, monetized, and enshitified.

It could be a community within an existing network or it could be its own website. I don’t know, I’m just putting the idea out there.

    • demesisx@infosec.pubEnglish
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      11 days ago

      This could be used for privacy.

      https://gitlab.com/veilid/veilid

      There’s also a new technology that allows sharing of proximity data without sharing location. I’m not finding it now, though.

      Ps. I tend to think that NOSTR is a far better protocol for this type of idea for the same reasons I’m looking at NOSTR instead of Pub/Sub for my federated inventory idea.

    • fxomt@lemm.eeEnglish
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      11 days ago

      forgot about DMs lmao, thanks blaze for correcting me

      Isn’t privacy basically irrelevant to a dating app? you’re giving your own info (headshot, name, hobbies, location i think?) voluntarily. Do correct me if i am wrong though.

      (There is some information that is sketchy for the company to be collecting though, such as app usage and contacts)

      • Blaze (he/him)@feddit.orgEnglish
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        11 days ago

        It’s more how to keep the information between two people, such as messages. As we know, messages on Lemmy can be seen by admins

      • rglullis@communick.newsEnglish
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        11 days ago

        Not everything needs to happen in the Fediverse. E.g, you can have the messaging part delegated to email, xmpp, matrix… Then you add a system where the other party needs to send a “request for contact info” separate from the public profile.

  • TriflingToad@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    11 days ago

    I kid you not I was thinking about this TODAY while taking a shower.
    I think it’s funny to imagine how silly it would be and everyone would joke around with couch + Vance memes, except for a single couple that actually met and fell in love and everybody asks for updates all the time

    In reality I don’t think it would work, but I have been wrong once before so go for it

  • JaggedRobotPubes@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    11 days ago

    We should recreate that old OkCupid matching system where users make, answer, and vote on the importance of different questions.

  • rglullis@communick.newsEnglish
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    11 days ago

    I am working on website that is Okcupid for Jobs. You follow @[email protected] and it posts questions that help you match with other professionals that might work well with you.

    and the apps are dreadful as I’m sure many of you know.

    What about Federation would make the apps better?

    • dwindling7373@feddit.itEnglish
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      11 days ago

      What about Federation would make the apps better?

      Rooting out the incentive the company have for you NOT to find a stable partner and uninstall.

  • glimse@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    11 days ago

    I feel like not everything has to be federated and this is one of those things

      • glimse@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        7 days ago

        I feel like most people, myself included, would not want to link their dating profile to their “everything” account.

          • glimse@lemmy.worldEnglish
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            5 days ago

            What is gained by federating it?

            Would you really want to see dating profiles while scrolling lemmy?

            • gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
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              5 days ago

              no, it could be a separate, but also federated network.

              My problem is that conventional dating apps do not work in favor of the users. So the users should community-host it. But since such community-hosted instances tend to be small, it makes sense to federate them. That is what i propose(d).

  • sabreW4K3@lazysoci.alEnglish
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    11 days ago

    There’s no federated dating apps, but the cream of the crop are currently Hinge and Feeld. That changes every few months.