I started seeing this guy in my friend group, and then I heard from someone else he’d started seeing another girl in our friend group. When I questioned him about it he got this stupid grin on his face and made a comment about the two of us fighting over him. I said: " I’m not fighting over you," and stopped dating him.
That’s as close as I ever got.
In my 20s, I (a guy) briefly dated a girl who was hopelessly infatuated with a gay guy. I guess technically it wasn’t a triangle because the gay guy had a pretty serious boyfriend, so more of a quadrangle… She got in between them, got him drunk & got herself knocked up, he “did the right thing” and married her, had another kid, then they got divorced after he had an affair with a guy…
It’s funny, I have her friended on Facebook, mostly because the drama is often entertaining, but I usually keep my comments to myself. When the divorce happened, she made this long post that basically said “woe is me, how could this have happened?” I couldn’t resist responding with “maybe because you married a gay guy?”
Holy hell wtf‽
Only had a good triad. We all loved each other equally, and we did our best respecting each others needs.
I just wish we all weren’t so stressed out about affording the basics.
Me, my gf and her mother.
Never again.
(No, not in a sexual way, not between me and the mother at least…)
Dated a girl who had a boyfriend. I was her “secret boyfriend” and she always told me that she was going to leave him, just need to find the right time, just another week, you’ll see babe. The surprising thing is that it was sexual, it wasn’t a friendzone thing.
She was my first and I stupidly thought it was something special. Nope, she just liked having the attention and had a fair amount of damage. She eventually did leave him, I was elated, and then a month later she cheated on me.
There’s no secret bf/gf folks, if she doesn’t want to tell her friends it’s a massive red flag for you, just move onto someone who respects you
I really liked a girl, asked her out once when I was way too young. Had a friend tagging along. After, he said I could do better. The guy was an idiot, but the words had an impact on me at the time. I forget about her and moved on. I was super busy with a new business anyways.
Later, I started dating this other girl. Turns out she was best friends with the first. The three of us did everything together for years. I never did anything with the first, but found myself just as attached to both in a unique way. The first even dated a friend if mine for awhile. When I broke up with the second, me and the first dated for a short while, but I ended up moving out of state and things didn’t work out.
Sounds like a pretty magical time while it lasted.
And your friend may not have been smart, but he was wise to tell you that you could do better. Sounds like it was the perfect thing to say to help you get over being rejected and move on. Being rejected and hanging on to hope can be awful.
Oh no, he was dumb, she was super into me then. He wasn’t consoling or anything but saying she was not pretty enough for me. I liked her for her depth and interests. He was a curiosity because he was into videography before YT, but had no depth beyond that one interest at the time. He had a misogynistic conquest like disposition that I do not share. At the time, this disposition was something I did not understand.
