so this happened to me yesterday, i was hanging out with a few of my relatives and we were doing a lot of stuff and we were having fun but i realized that when my relatives talk to each other they talk like proper adults because well, they are, like, they can swear and stuff, but when i talk to them they are like “yea buddy sure!!” or talk to me like as if i was some sort of young person, and even my friends do that same thing, all of them!!! it feels like i’m not part of anyone’s conversation which sucks but well it’s fine!!!
Probably because you’re a child.
Sorry but I work with college students, if you’re not 25+ you’re another one of those children to me. Your writing style is very similar to theirs; it’s very stream-of-consciousness with overuse of punctuation to try and accentuate your “points.”
Grow up, get your spirit destroyed by the world, realize you can keep living without it, and I’m sure other adults will start to treat you like one.
I don’t know your situation, but I’ve noticed that people tend to do this to people who act immaturely. Your writing style, especially the use of 3 exclamation marks per sentence seems quite childish. If you talk in a similar way, that might have something to do with it.
If you want to appear older online you should write properly. Proper capitalisation and sentences make your text easier to read. As it is they look like an uninterrupted stream of consciousness.
This might also help you offline. Try to structure your thoughts before giving them to the world. This takes time but should go a long way on making you seem like you got your shit together.
I subconsciously skipped the entire text after a few words and didn’t even realize or think about why until I saw this comment. OPs style of writing is exhausting. If they talk like that in person, that would explain a lot.
ok, being honest here.
i remember you from a while back (old posts) and being straight up, you do seem kinda young and childlike. I do not know how old you really are, but if i was guessing, 14-16.
The way the post is written reads like something written by someone in that age range too.
I’m leaning towards a thought experiment bot at this point.
From what I can tell by your posts, you are treated like a child because you talk and act like a child. Have you tried, like, growing the fuck up?
but i am growing up and besides i have no other way of talking,i’m sorry, i’m still learning too but thank you for the advice!!
“But I am growing up. And besides, I have no other way of talking, I’m sorry, I’m still learning. But thank you for the advice!”
Try this.
Do the RAADS-R test. In case it’s more than 120 (I think that’s the number, but it has a description), you may want to read what autism is and whether you may have seen some of the traits in you, and then may visit a psychiatrist.
I say that because autistic people often imitate some style of speech in circumstances not quite fitting.
Your use of punctuation reminds people of when they’ve seen posts by 11-14 year olds. Do you not notice that adults in general don’t do that?
I expect if you’re unaware of something like that so immediately apparent to everyone in this thread that you may have other quirks and behaviours that strike people as childish.
If you sincerely want to change that you’re going to need to ask the frank opinion of someone who knows you in person…
You are one of the very few users here on Lemmy I recognize, and it is not because you’ve been posting very intelligent things. In fact you posted this exact question once already (but seem to have deleted it by now).
I remember being 21 and I was more mature at 21 than you appear to be based on your post and comment history here, in fact I think I was more mature than you are now at around 14.
I don’t know how it happens, but I agree with you. I don’t know how I’m able to recognize more users on Lemmy than on Reddit by how spammy their genuine posts and comments are.
I’ve blocked more people on Lemmy than on Reddit.
this sounds a bit harsh, but look at OPs history and its actually true.
Did the answers you got the last time(s?) you posted this question not tell you what you wanted to hear?
How much of an age gap is there? Do you look young? How do you act?
most of the people i know are my same age or just a few years older, a very good friend of mine is 19 tho, and yea i think i look young, and i act ok, no swearing, stuff like that
I think I covered this the last time you posted, but swearing isn’t a sign of maturity. It’s generally a sign of limited vocabulary.
Also, “being treated like a child” is an interesting statement. I know I tend to go into any conversation with someone of ANY age treating them like they may be totally ignorant of the topic at hand, but are likely bright enough to pick it up pretty quickly. Age rarely factors into it.
But if someone appears to be attention seeking and inauthentic, pretending they know things/people they don’t, and trying to act how they think someone else wants them to act instead of just being themselves… that’s when the “OK buddy” comes out. It means “I’ve discovered I can’t have a real conversation with you and you’ve used up my patience to coach you along.”
ikr, like fr, sometimes i think it’s because maybe i’m just, like, short, but wtf no joke, one of my closest friends rn is shorter than me and with my other friends, i still get treated like i was less mature?? one time one of my coworkers actually said that, not cool wth, and i feel a bit outcast when they all act like that, like, this is just how I talk, so why can’t they respect that i’m pretty much the same generation as you guys, i slouch just like they do, and sometimes they have even worse posture, but then like why do they have to low key drop these bad vibes on me, cause ong, it’s so demeaning when they say something slow like they think they’re being thoughtful, and maybe sometimes the nice people really are, but mostly they come across sarcastic and fake!!! but i can deal with, most of the time, idk
Back into the spirit of c/NoStupidQuestions – follow up question! What do you think they believe Proper Adults act and speak like?
Wow, based on how you write, you and the OP both seem very young. Do you also talk in a stream-of-consciousness manner?
Firstly, * woosh *? Or am I being wooshed? Haha. Happy new year!
Also, nah, my dude. I’m incredibly grateful to’ve had great English/English comp teachers since 7th grade. You make me blush; it’s not an exact copy of op’s writing style here, but I tried :3
This dude hit the nail on the head, imo https://lemmy.world/comment/14218130
Speaking and writing in a human-readable way does take practice and time.I humbly admit you got me! Well done, mimicking OP’s writing style.
I mean, just the way you type makes me read it in a squeaky voice lmao
Stop being a furry. Stop saying “swearing” and “like”. Stop the extra exclamation.
Stop being a furry.
Furries keep the Internet running. Anger them at your own peril.
It’s true. All the hamster furries run in big wheels to keep the tube pressure up and the packets flowing.
i will not stop being a furry, i deeply apologize. i shall stop or at least try to stop saying the word “like”. i am grateful and i appreciate it
Not that I’ve looked up your post history as well as the way you type. Everything just screams “14 y.o. girl.” There’s a lot of personality, a lot of bubbliness, everything’s "hyper. " It’s just not something you’d expect of an adult.
Adults are usually more reserved and “battle-worn.” I’d also look at the wardrobe, especially if you’re of smaller stature. Additionally, being an adult is often about taking responsibility. Sucking it up and doing the right thing, so to say. Look at how you’ve behaved in the past in difficult situations, how you’ve handled conflicts. Have you ever taken a proactive role in finding a resolution? This may also be your clue.
everything just screams “14 y.o girl” first of all i would like to tell you that i am, in fact, a 21 year old person who well, honestly i do like to type that way because 1. it makes me feel more human and definitely more connected to people and 2. it totally fosters a sense of honesty and makes me look more like a real person which, i am!!! and 3. everything’s hyper?? well i’m sorry, but what would you expect from a person that is heavily involved in cool stuff like linux and programming and ui/ux design?? everything’s gotta have some sense of coolness or radness, which i am always trying my best to give.
adults are usually more reserved and “battle-worn” i apologize for this but i won that battle a long time ago and even if i lose to life itself then i will still get up with that same energy and that’s something most people should learn about and apply to their daily lives, i really enjoy doing this and i hope everyone in the world learns how to be that truthfully. thank you.
i’d also look at the wardrobe, especially if you’re of smaller stature i am 5’10, i may have the height of a 16 year old but i am in no way a 16 year old, i’m sorry. oh and my wardrobe?? it’s full of fruit of the loom t shirts of various colors and a lot of comfy cotton pants and well that’s it.
additionally, being an adult is often about taking responsibility. Sucking it up and doing the right thing oh… well, i deeply apologize if i have not been doing that, but i have been doing that, i accept that i have, i’ve sucked up my pride and i have done and said the right thing, i don’t want to sound like i’m bragging because honestly there’s nothing to brag about here, but i promise you that i’ve done that and i will keep doing that. thank you so much for the advice
And here’s your other issue…
Nothing of what I said was meant as an offense. Yet you took it to hearts. That is not a response one would normally expect. It’s almost as if I’m reading a script from a teenage drama show where a character has an unresolved inner conflict. Doesn’t mean I’m correct, just some food for thought.
Your question was “why people act like I’m a kid?” I only shared my observations of why that could be the case. That doesn’t mean you need to change anything. Not if you yourself are ok with it.
Also, I was well aware you’re 21 at the moment of writing the comment. Yet again, I’m merely answering your question, I really don’t mean anything beyond what is written. I’m not judging, no nothing, everything I write should be read in as neutral tone as possible.
The rest was me speculating. Those aren’t the questions you should be answering to me, only to yourself. After all, a random stranger on the internet can only do so much, you’re the only one who can answer your own question. Best I can do is point you in a direction to dig further, which those were meant for. It’s all about retrospective.
