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If I said I’m good at switching tasks, that would be a total lie.
Yeah I was gonna say the same thing. I’m appalling at moving from one task to another.
Instead of:
I am a sociopath
Say:
I am excellent CEO material“Assertive go-getter”
Like a Mario looking for his Luigi…
I have ADHD and I will hyper fixate on something for 12 hours straight, forgetting to eat or take a bathroom break. I will learn all about it and do it perfectly, but then I will be useless for a day or two, as I lose my car keys in the refrigerator and then remember I went to the grocery store and make a sandwich instead of looking for them.
This sounds a lot like me. Whether I have ADHD is something I’ve been wondering for some time now, but the descriptions of ADHD are always so conflicting to me, because every symptom can be taken as a evidence or counterevidence by changing perspective, partly because of this duality you described.
Edit: lolshit wall of text about ADHD of all things. Sorry!
Attention DEFICIT is a misleading term. It’s more an issue of not being able to willingly direct your attention.
That’s why ADHD brains hyperfixate on something and we’re are unable to switch to something else, even though we KNOW we should/want to/have to do the other thing - we can’t direct our attention away from the thing our brains are hyperfixating on.
What sometimes looks like rapid “task switching” is again the inability to direct our attention so it flips around uncontrolled.
This also often leads to a weird state of paralysis where we’re doing absolutely fuck all because we can’t activate our attention properly but we’re yelling at ourselves on the inside to DO THE FUCKING THING YOU FUCKING LAZY SHIT.
For ADHD brains to be able to consciously, actively direct attention, there needs to be some immediate reward. It can’t be some vague reward that might come in the future, like “you won’t have back pain when you’re old (so exercise!)”. That doesn’t work.
For me (and others, I hear), it’s often the thought that others are depending on me doing The Thing. That’s why I was absolutely insanely good at organising shit in my last job - my coworkers depended on me having prepared all kinds of data. Without this reward, I am completely useless at organising stuff.
Unless it’s interesting, of course, which is again an immediate reward.
Does this sound in any way like you?
Edit: and did you have trouble directing your attention to get through this text? :D
This resonates so well with me… First time I’ve read it as “inability to direct attention” and it makes so much sense. So many long sessions looking up random crap on Wikipedia instead of completing tasks, which ultimately only end up taking like 5-30 min usually… And that’s after pushing it back for days or weeks. I’ve not been diagnosed, but often find descriptions and memes hitting a bit too close to home.
Just keep in mind each person is impacted differently. Symptoms aren’t one size fits all, and even NTs get some relatable symptoms occasionally.
It’s because ADHD despite it’s name is not a deficit of attention, but the inability to control it. That may be that you change focus all the time but also that you can’t take your focus from something even if you should.
I felt this way too before I saw a doctor. I would see posts online about it and relate to them, but I knew social media posts can be inaccurate. I knew that that type of thing targets very generic symptoms to attract more interactions.
I thought everyone was tired and stressed like I can be. I spent a lot of time thinking I was lazy or not good enough because I couldn’t get stuff done that seemed easy for other people.
It wasn’t until my partner suggested I talk to my doctor about it because he saw signs.
Honestly, the best thing you can do is talk to a doctor if you feel like symptoms are disrupting your ability to function. If you’re doing fine, you might not need it! But the best thing I ever did was talk to my doctor about this, anxiety, and a potential sleep related disorder (I’m still working on the latter).
Yeah the OP is the opposite of my experience with ADHD. I’m fucking terrible at moving from one task to another, that’s literally the hardest part about it. I just studied Japanese for 12 hours straight yesterday instead of working or writing any code, just because I got the sudden urge. I haven’t actively studied Japanese since 2020 so I’m just reviewing shit I already learned years ago. I’ll do this for a couple days until I either burn myself out or find a new thing to fixate on.
If I’m in burnout, I’ll start rapidly changing between tasks, playing 10 minutes of every game I own chasing any shred of dopamine I can find, or scrolling through short form video content for hours until I find something that catches my attention and then I’ll be fixated on that for anywhere between 1 full day, to about a week.
Like I have coping techniques and medication, but they only go so far and sometimes I just can’t seem to reign it in. Sometimes I can fixate on work or study tasks, (e.g. Japanese) but usually it takes a Herculean amount of effort, determination and discipline to actually control my focus to what I need it on. When I manage to direct my focus to the important stuff it feels like a superpower to fixate on it, but those moments are few and far between.
Instead of:
I am a psychopath that wants to see queer people and PoC suffer for fun
Say:
I am an entrepreneur with right-wing views who sees a great opportunity in working with the Republican party
Can we have one fucking post without american politics getting shoehorned in?
I get it’s important to you but perhaps keep it to topics or communities at least somewhat related. You know, for the two people in the world not living in the us.
If the word ‘Republican’ were omitted, that comment could be applicable in most countries on the planet.
It’s kind of nitpicking anyway, don’t you think? Almost as nitpicky as pointing out when the country of the United States is referred to by the name of the continent it shares with other nations.
Probably, though I really don’t want politics being shoved into a literal shitposting community without any prompt in the op either way. I have my own political issues to worry about over here in Germany and have only so much mental capacity for gloomy copeposting now that trump was re elected.
There is also a wide range of communities available for political venting elsewhere, why does it have to be a non political post in a shitposting community? Where am I supposed to go if not here to avoid that stuff?
That’s understandable. I imagine a large section of the user base doesn’t navigate to a specific community to look through posts, and instead just skip through the main feed. I didn’t realise the community until you pointed it out.
While I agree with your sentiment that no one wants to be so bombarded with foreign politics, at the very least the joke that user made was in keeping with the theme of the meme.
Regarding your final question, depending on your method of consuming this content, you may be able to entirely block comments by setting a blacklist of words, perhaps including ‘Republican’ in this case. The same I know is true on most applications for post titles, but I’m just assuming here the same is applicable to comments.
Either way, best wishes with the situation in the fatherland, I do hope to visit some day.
Americans like to pretend the only country that matters is them
Hear! Hear!
(from NZ)
Or they can just say:
“I am a fucking cunt”
Yeah, using a mental illness as a synonym fora bad person is not ableist at all.
“Won’t someone think of the people that are destroying our society?”
Not all mental illnesses are high-functioning autism-style quirkiness, things that need help, many of which makes people more of victims of violence than the perpetrators of them. Sure, you can say that e.g. the Cybertruck bomber was abused by the MAGA cult, but that won’t change the facts. All this does is downplay the abuse these people can do if they’re at the wrong place.
We can call out the abuses of Donald Trump and Elon Musk, without taking away their mental health card. They were very close to two pedophile rings, and pedophilia is among the few paraphilias that psychology tries its best to correct due to the harm these people can cause to real children. They’re also narcissists, and likely also psychopaths.
Tgis is what gets called out, and not equating disabilities with illness?
You treat an illness. It’s something you try to eliminate. A disability isn’t something that has a cure, and often needs accomodations rather than treatment.
You’re boring.
Irritable bowel syndrome:
“I’ll give two shits when most others would not.”
I feel like this really needs to be said. OCD != being meticulous to detail. It isn’t “omg this spreadsheet is in the wrong order,” it is more like “I can’t fail to flick the light swith 3.5 times when I enter a room. I know that the switch gets left midway, but that is how I will obsessively leave it. If you change it, I will put it back to everyone’s detremint.”
Don’t also forget as schizophrenic: “Good at listening to multiple points of view.”
In a weird way, this is a good technique called reframing.
It’s very common to beat ourselves up.
Use the left side. Ignore/sue all potential employers who didn’t hire you.
Autism isn’t an illness
I have ADHD -> I’m excellent at moving from one task to another.
I dunno about those of you who have more substantial ADHD, but I find moving intentionally or external-led from one task to another - i.e. other than my brain’s natural flow - is one of the hardest things for me. Switching from, even, washing dishes to mopping up water splashed, can be a great mental strain.
I have anxiety -> I anticipate accidents and hiccups before they happen
Those do go together for me.
That’s genuinely a good strategy, I might use this.
What about “I have depression”
“I am very self-reflected and think carefully about everything.” (x_X)
Nice, but rather than “self-reflected,” maybe this: “I’m capable of profound reflection and critical analysis.”
Sorry bro, JFKYourself
“I’m good at following the footsteps of former presidents”
Why is this on Shitpost? It belongs on LPT!
Adhd moving from one task to an other . Nop I have ADHD and its the complete opposite
